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When Marriage Feels Like It’s in Shambles
I feel like my marriage is in shambles, the kind that can’t be mended with a simple date night or a getaway. Honestly, suggesting that feels like tossing a pack of Band-Aids at a broken leg. I’m tired of merely masking the pain with Neosporin and hoping it won’t leave scars. We’ve been stuck in this cycle for way too long. A “time out” just won’t do the trick this time around.
I can’t help but think it’s mostly my fault. My foundation feels shaky, and I haven’t been on solid ground for quite a while now. Maybe I’ve leaned on him a bit too much. My old friend, Anxiety, seems to have made a permanent home between us, and I often feel like a less-than-stellar housewife. He walks in after a long day to find the house looking like a tornado hit it. Oh, you need clean boxers for tomorrow? Sorry, I was too busy making sure our little one didn’t choke or hurt himself. You’re welcome.
We’re both exhausted—like, really exhausted—and stressed out by this beautiful life we’ve built together. Right now, there’s no time to truly enjoy it, and instead, we end up resenting each other and bickering over the smallest things. Some folks say that kids bring couples closer together. Maybe so in the delivery room or at a nursing home, but honestly, I call bull on that.
Our parenting approaches are miles apart. I’m the strict one—when I say no, I mean it. He leans more toward the “maybe” side, which usually translates to yes. I feel like the villain in our house, especially with our teenager and our four-year-old, and he doesn’t seem to get why that frustrates me. After a long day with the toddler, I’m practically at the door when he gets home, ready to escape. Dinner? Ha!
I really don’t know why I thought this would be so simple. It feels like we’re the only ones struggling with our so-called picture-perfect life because nobody seems to talk about it. “Do you ever dislike your spouse?” isn’t something I’d casually ask, fearing the response would be, “Oh my gosh, how could I? Our life is amazing.” Thanks, June and Ward Cleaver, for setting the bar so high and making it seem so easy.
I miss the days of my marriage. I miss my best friend and the “us” we were before these blessings came along and turned everything upside down. We made each other better; we were an unbeatable team. Remember those days?
You’re Not Alone
If you’re feeling similarly, you’re definitely not alone. Check out our other blog posts for more insight on navigating these tough times. And for those looking into home insemination, this site is great for resources and information.
In summary, marriage can hit some rough patches, and it’s important to acknowledge the struggles that come with parenting and life changes. Remember, you’re not alone in this journey.