Hey friend! So, let me share a little something from my life. A few years back, my partner Jake and I received that amazing call that changed everything—we were about to become parents! Our daughter was already born, and we were racing to prepare for our new adventure. Fast forward, and we’re now a family of five, proudly navigating our journey of transracial adoption. It’s like we’re part of a secret club where the experiences and quirks of adoptive families connect us all.
Here are 20 signs that your family was created through adoption:
- You can spot another adoptive family from a mile away and give them that knowing look.
- When someone says something or someone is “rad,” you instantly think of reactive attachment disorder.
- You can rattle off adoption and fostering statistics like it’s second nature.
- You’ve been asked if your kids are “real” siblings more times than you can count.
- Your family gets double-takes everywhere you go.
- Phrases like “adopt a puppy” or “adopt a highway” make you cringe.
- People have had the audacity to ask how much your kids cost.
- You’ve heard “God bless you for giving those children a good home” right in front of your kids.
- A stranger has asked if celebs like Sandra Bullock or Angelina Jolie inspired your adoption journey.
- You’ve been asked if you plan to tell your children they were adopted while they’re literally standing next to you.
- Some folks think it’s common for a woman to find out she’s pregnant after deciding to adopt (surprise!).
- You’ve had to clarify that your kids were born in the U.S. when people ask where they’re from, leaving them confused.
- You know what FAS, RAD, and PTSD stand for without breaking a sweat.
- You get a little annoyed when people refer to you as an “adoptive” mom instead of just your child’s mom.
- You own several copies of Tell Me Again About the Night I Was Born because it seems to be a popular gift.
- You’ve been told you look great for just having “given birth” to your baby.
- People often mention they’ve always wanted to adopt.
- Your children are often labeled “lucky” to have you as their parent.
- You’ve been asked if you’re going to have your “own” kids now that you’ve adopted.
- Your hands are full, your heart is full, and you wouldn’t trade it for anything.
Choosing to adopt is a unique journey that demands patience and commitment. If you’re already deep into the adoption process or just thinking about it, my advice? Grab a glass of wine, put on your big girl pants, and get ready for the wild ride ahead! And if you’re interested in more insights, check out this piece on home insemination or visit Make A Mom for expert advice on family-building options. For further information, MedlinePlus is an excellent resource on pregnancy and home insemination.
In summary, being a parent by adoption comes with its own set of experiences and challenges, but the love in our families is what makes it all worthwhile.