5 Things to Know When Hiring a Caregiver for Your Aging Parents

Hey there! If you’re diving into the world of hiring a caregiver for your elderly parents, I’ve got some insights to share that might make the process a bit smoother.

1. It Takes Time

Finding the right caregiver isn’t a quick task. You’ll need to interview candidates, help them understand your parents’ needs, and juggle the scheduling. While a caregiver can definitely give you some breathing room, remember they also require oversight and guidance to really shine.

2. You Might Need to Let Some Go

Unfortunately, caregiver turnover is a reality. Sometimes it’s because they just aren’t up to the task, and other times it’s a simple mismatch in personalities. Your parents need to feel comfortable with their caregiver, so don’t be discouraged if it takes a few tries to find the right match.

3. Stay Organized

It can be easy to assume that if you tell one caregiver something, the rest will automatically know too—trust me, it doesn’t work that way! Create systems like checklists, emails, and texts to keep everyone in the loop about your parents’ care.

4. Respect Their Unique Personalities

Just because a caregiver is skilled doesn’t mean they’re the right fit for your parents. For instance, my friend Jessie found that her dad couldn’t stand a caregiver who was “too chatty,” even though that same person might be a perfect match for someone who loves a good conversation. Personality clashes are common, so keep searching for that ideal connection.

5. Agencies Aren’t Always the Solution

Sure, agencies can provide caregivers quickly, but that doesn’t guarantee quality. Jessie once encountered an aide who didn’t speak English and left her dad alone for hours. Sometimes, personal connections can lead to better options, so don’t hesitate to ask around.

Let’s be real—this whole process can be a heavy load for adult children, financially and emotionally. It’s worth noting that other countries, like Germany and Japan, have more effective eldercare systems in place, integrating medical professionals into daily care routines. If you want to dive deeper into the eldercare crisis in the U.S., check out Ai-jen Poo’s The Age of Dignity.

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Summary

Hiring a caregiver for your elderly parents can be a time-consuming and challenging process, but it’s essential to find the right fit. Keep in mind the importance of organization, the potential for turnover, and the need for open communication to ensure your parents receive the best care possible.