5 Irritating Comments I Often Hear as a Work-at-Home Mom

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Let’s face it, being a work-at-home mom can sometimes feel like you’re stuck in a weird limbo. We hear all about the “Mommy wars” between working moms and stay-at-home moms, but what about us? I’ve been freelancing as an editor and writer ever since I left my full-time job six years ago when my daughter was born. Picture me on client calls with my toddler climbing on me, sneaking in emails at the playground while my daughter chases after a butterfly, or guzzling coffee after staying up late to finish editing a manuscript. People often struggle to label us work-at-home moms, and that leads to some pretty annoying comments. Here are some of my least favorites:

1. “You must have so much free time!”

   Okay, if you consider proofreading a lengthy book as “free time,” then sure. I didn’t leave a steady job to kick back and binge-watch shows. No mom, whether working or at home, has “me time” when the kids are around. Those hours are spent tackling emails, folding laundry, or planning birthday parties. Honestly, the last time I relaxed was about six years ago, and I bet most moms would agree with me.

2. “You’re so fortunate to work from home!”

   Yes, I’m lucky in some respects, but let’s be real: it’s not all rainbows and butterflies. I’ve sacrificed a lot, like a regular paycheck and benefits. Every time I look around my tiny apartment, I wonder if we can even handle potty training my toddler with our cramped space. I made choices, and while I value my work-at-home lifestyle, it comes at a price.

3. “You get to stay in your pajamas all day!”

   This one’s partially true, and yes, it’s great. If it weren’t for the school run, I might not get out of my PJs at all. And honestly, who has time for showers when you’re juggling work and kids? I’m sure my husband appreciates that I occasionally put in some effort, unlike those stylish moms at the bus stop!

4. “Your job sounds so easy! I should do that.”

   Oh, absolutely! Just rewind time and get a degree in creative writing, then spend years in the publishing industry. This isn’t just a cute hobby; it’s a career that requires dedication. If you’re looking for that “dream job,” be prepared to swap your full-time salary for freelance projects with no benefits. Sounds sweet, right?

5. “You have the best of both worlds!”

   Sure, I get to be home with my kids, and I love that, but it can also be the worst of both worlds. I often cram an eight-hour workload into a three-hour window, and my kids sometimes have to wait while I finish “just one more email.” If a client calls while I’m juggling kids fighting over a toy, it’s a real balancing act that’s exhausting, but I wouldn’t trade it for anything.

Honestly, not fitting into a specific label can be frustrating. Friends often forget I have a career just because I’m not commuting in heels. Some stay-at-home moms overlook me since my kid’s in daycare part-time. Yet, I experience both worlds daily, and let me tell you, we’re all doing our best. If you want to learn more about balancing motherhood and work, check out this post on contacting us. And for those interested in fertility and home insemination, Make a Mom is a fantastic resource, along with News Medical that provides valuable insights.

In summary, being a work-at-home mom is a unique challenge filled with its own set of frustrations and blessings. While we juggle deadlines and toddler tantrums, we also cherish those moments we get to spend with our kids. It’s a balancing act, but one that many of us wouldn’t change.