As adults, we’ve often come to terms with the hard truth that not everyone will appreciate us. This realization can be painful. For those who weren’t taught differently, it can lead to internalizing others’ opinions, resulting in diminished self-worth and confidence. So, should we protect our children from this hurt by explaining that not everyone will like them? Or is it better to let them discover this on their own, just as we did? If we choose to prepare them for this reality, at what age should we start?
Every child is unique, and there’s no one-size-fits-all answer. However, I believe it’s vital to have these discussions early to help combat the self-esteem issues that can arise from realizing that some people simply won’t like them. We need to instill in them that their value doesn’t hinge on other people’s opinions.
Last year, I picked up my three-year-old daughter, Mia, from a learning session. She’s eager to start school and has shown interest in expanding her knowledge beyond what I teach at home. On this day, her tutor mentioned, “I want you to be aware that some people might feel envious of Mia. Even some adults may find her intimidating…” I value her tutor’s insights, knowing she has Mia’s best interests at heart. Mia is bright and charming; not everyone will appreciate her gifts. This unexpected conversation lingered in my mind.
After reflecting on this and noticing that some friends were occasionally unkind or reluctant to play with Mia, I realized it was time for that important talk. Although I usually brushed off kids’ behavior as typical childhood antics, I hadn’t considered that jealousy might play a role as she grows older.
I knew I had to prepare her for the emotional challenges she might encounter. It’s essential for her to understand that it’s perfectly normal not to be liked by everyone.
I admit, I felt nervous about approaching this topic. I questioned whether I was going about it the right way. Was she too young? Would it make her sad, given her innocent nature? To my relief, the conversation turned out better than I anticipated. I explained that sometimes other kids might not want to play with her. When she asked why, I reassured her that it wasn’t a reflection of her worth—sometimes, they just aren’t in the mood to play.
After our chat, I asked her how she would respond if someone didn’t want to play with her. Mia brightened and said, “I’ll ask if they can be my friend!” I praised her response but added that if they declined, it was perfectly fine to find someone else to play with. She understood and accepted it.
A few days later, I revisited the topic. When I asked again, she confidently replied, “I’ll ask if they can be my friend, and if they don’t want to be, that’s okay! I’ll just play with someone else!”
True to her nature, she is now sharing this lesson with her younger sister, Lily, who is just 16 months old. It’s a great way for Mia to understand that it’s not personal if someone doesn’t want to play. This scenario has helped simplify a complex issue she will face later in life.
We are on the right path in teaching her that not everyone will love her, and that’s completely acceptable. It’s a hard truth for parents too, but equipping them to handle adversity is one of the greatest gifts we can offer.
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In summary, teaching children that not everyone will like them is a crucial conversation that fosters resilience and self-worth. It’s essential to approach this subject with care and openness, ensuring they feel confident in themselves regardless of others’ opinions.