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The Surprising Lessons of Parenting
When you become a parent, you often find yourself hoping for two things: that your child will take after you in some ways, and that they won’t in others. And most of the time, you get a mix of both—often in unexpected ways. I had one of those moments recently when I was sitting on the floor, comforting my 7-year-old son, Oliver, who was sobbing uncontrollably over what he believed was a crisis: he has too many friends! I mean, really? It’s wild to think about how our childhood grievances were often about things like our appearance or fitting in, but here I was, wiping away tears while Oliver lamented, “Everyone wants to play with me, but sometimes I just want to be alone!”
I had to stifle a laugh. After all, how could a kid feel overwhelmed by having too many friends? My own childhood was filled with plenty of drama, but it was usually about my looks or wanting to fit in better. But with Oliver, I knew I had to take his feelings seriously. He’s not like me; he’s a natural leader. Kids gravitate toward him, even though he’s not the tallest or the most athletic. What he lacks in size, he makes up for with his humor, intelligence, and a confidence level that’s impressively high for a kid his age. He genuinely believes he’s fantastic at everything—even if I occasionally have to remind him that he’s not going to be the next big comedy star.
His outgoing nature seems to draw his peers in like moths to a flame. It’s a lot of pressure, especially when all he wants to do during recess is play pretend, maybe as one of the Avengers or even Groucho Marx. I encouraged him to tell his friends, “Hey, I just need some time to play alone today.” But he was particularly worried about hurting one friend’s feelings. This struck a chord with me because Oliver hasn’t always been the most considerate kid. He once insisted that helping someone in need couldn’t be his New Year’s resolution because he didn’t mean it. So, when I saw him worried about his friend’s feelings, I knew he was showing real growth. It was my job to explain that while caring for others is important, he also needs to prioritize his own needs.
The next day, he bravely told his friend he wanted to play alone but reassured him that it didn’t change their friendship (the classic “It’s not you, it’s me” line). To my surprise, after all the drama, the kid simply shrugged and said, “OK.” So, it turns out that it’s totally possible to be kind while also setting personal boundaries. If I’d learned this lesson earlier in life, maybe I wouldn’t be such a people-pleaser today. Then again, I could have saved Oliver from hearing how his John Travolta impression isn’t quite ready for the spotlight.
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Conclusion
In summary, parenting is all about navigating the unique experiences our children face—even when those experiences seem trivial to us. Sometimes, our kids will surprise us with their emotional maturity, and it’s our job to support them in learning how to balance their feelings with the needs of others.