7 Honest Truths About Life After Baby

Updated: Feb. 12, 2021

Originally Published: June 28, 2015

I’ve always been a planner. I check the weather multiple times a day, and my trunk is loaded with rain ponchos and snacks. I never leave home without an extra pair of contacts or clean underwear. So, you can imagine my shock when I discovered that the $400 I spent on hospital prep courses and the countless pages of expert baby advice left me feeling utterly unready for motherhood. Who knew?

It turns out the best lessons didn’t come from those books or classes (or even the latest gossip magazines, because hey, a mom-to-be deserves a little escape). What I truly needed was to hear from a wise version of myself—my post-baby self. Here are some straightforward truths I wish I had known:

1. You’ll Still Look Pregnant After Delivery

Congrats! You’ve welcomed a new life, but your body might not reflect that just yet. You’d think I’d be prepared, but I was astonished to see my enormous belly when I left the hospital. Reality check: you may look like you’re still carrying a baby for a while, especially if you had a C-section. Even if you managed a “healthy” weight gain during pregnancy, the bloating will leave you feeling like you just finished a feast.

2. Take Everything from the Hospital

Don’t feel guilty about it—grab as much as you can! Regardless of your insurance plan or the baby shower gifts you received, the essentials you’ll need aren’t at your local store. Get to know your nurses; they have access to all the good stuff, from massive maxi pads to comfy nursing gowns. Trust me, that mesh underwear is a lifesaver and will save your favorite pairs from disaster.

3. You’ll Keep “Giving Birth” for Weeks

Let’s just say, the aftermath isn’t pretty. It’s like having the worst period of your life—every few minutes. Someone probably did mention it, but it’s way worse than you can imagine. You’ll need those extra pads you snagged at the hospital because regular ones won’t cut it. Apologies to the environment, but new moms have to prioritize!

4. Visitors Are Great—Especially with Food

Don’t shy away from guests; they’re eager to help! Those meals you prepped and froze? Yeah, they’re still in the freezer, just like your energy. And don’t worry about showering—let your visitors hold the baby while you freshen up. They’ll feel useful and you’ll get a break, so it’s a win-win.

5. Newborns Have Their Own Agenda

Don’t take it personally when your little one seems moody. One day they’re sweet, and the next they’re little tyrants. Keep track of all the moments they stress you out, though—those will come in handy when they’re older!

6. Breastfeeding Isn’t Always Easy

While it’s often described as the “most natural thing,” that doesn’t mean it’s a walk in the park. If you’re struggling, don’t hesitate to reach out for help. There are professionals who specialize in this! If formula is a better fit for you, go for it. The most important thing is what works for you and your baby.

7. You Don’t Need to Have All the Answers

This is perhaps the simplest yet hardest lesson to learn. Loving and caring for your baby is the most important thing, and your little one sees you as perfect, even if you feel far from it.

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In summary, motherhood is full of surprises, and being prepared doesn’t always mean knowing everything. Embrace the chaos, lean on your community, and remember that every mom figures it out in her own way.