Hey there! So, I’ve been working with my young teen, Mia, to help her understand what it means to be a true “sister-friend.” Being a sister in this sense is all about supporting other girls and women, creating a strong network of friendship that lasts through the ups and downs of life. Here’s how I’m guiding Mia to become that friend we all need:
1. Pack a Survival Kit
No one can go through life completely solo. Middle school is when those unexpected moments—like getting your period—hit, often at the worst possible times. To help Mia navigate this, I put together a discreet survival kit for her. It’s a small makeup bag filled with pads, a couple of tampons, wipes, and a mini deodorant. I told her that if she sees a girl in need, even someone she doesn’t know well, she should step up and lend a hand. It’s about being bold and offering whatever she has, even if it’s her last tampon—she can always restock later!
2. No Girl Left Behind
If you’re at a party or hanging out and a friend is waiting for a ride, never leave her alone. Unfortunately, the world can be a dangerous place, and it’s crucial to stick together. Make sure she’s safe—this means getting picked up by a parent or older sibling, or taking her home yourself. Remember, you and your friends are a package deal; when one goes, you all go. Even if you feel a bit jelly because the guy you like is giving your friend attention, her safety comes first. Trust me, I learned the hard way when I let a friend wander off with someone I didn’t fully trust. It didn’t end well.
3. Avoid Competing for Boys
Sometimes there’s friendly competition for positions on sports teams or in student government, but when it comes to boys, that’s a no-go. At 14, most crushes aren’t going to lead anywhere permanent. Female friendships are way more important than any fleeting romance. If you find yourself in a tough spot, take a step back and focus on healing. And if that guy tries to come back later? Yeah, he’s probably not worth it.
4. Make Time for Your Girlfriends
When you’re in a relationship, it’s easy to forget about your friends. But don’t lose sight of them! Your girlfriends need to feel valued too. Make sure to check in with them every now and then, because when relationships end, your friends will be the ones to help you through it.
5. Be There When It Counts
If a friend calls you at 3 a.m. because she needs support, pick up the phone! You’d want her to do the same for you. Let’s be real, your phone is probably right next to you anyway.
The middle and high school years can be a rollercoaster filled with challenges and risks. By helping our daughters foster strong, supportive friendships, they’ll grow into women who uplift and empower each other just like sisters. If you’d like more resources on this topic, check out one of our other blog posts here, and for further information on home insemination, visit Make a Mom—they’re an authority on the subject.
In summary, teaching our daughters to be sister-friends means encouraging them to support one another, help in times of need, and value their friendships over fleeting crushes. This is how they can grow into strong, compassionate women.