A Promise You Hope to Never Keep

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Life sometimes hands us promises that we’d rather not think about. These are the promises tied to the “what ifs,” the scenarios that seem too grim to even consider. They’re tough commitments, and as much as we might want to tuck them away in the back of our minds, we still make them because there’s a certain comfort in knowing they exist.

When I came across the story of the Martinez family adopting their late friend’s three daughters after her battle with cancer, it struck a chord with me. It felt way too close to home. My friends and I are all nearing our 40s, and most of us have kids. The twist is that we are named as the legal guardians of our best friends’ two children, should something happen to both of them.

This arrangement was made about five years ago. It wasn’t a casual conversation; it was a serious decision made by our friends after much thought. With both sets of grandparents aging and unable to care for young ones full time, and siblings not being a viable option for various reasons, they turned to us. While other friends were considered, factors like health and distance played a role.

It’s important to note we weren’t the last choice. Our friends were aware of our financial situation, so this wasn’t a decision they took lightly. However, my husband and I are practically family to them. He’s known Lily since high school, and both of them stood with us on our wedding day. The three of them lived together for years, and I was part of their household before my husband and I moved in together. They were the first to learn about our pregnancy and even guessed it before I did! Their son once spent an entire year asking me to marry him. We camp every summer and spend a week at our cottage together.

So when they asked us to step in as guardians, the answer was a resounding yes. At the time, my husband and I were planning for our own family. The thought of taking in their kids meant we’d need to make some adjustments—a bigger house, a second car, and a bigger grocery budget—but in the grand scheme of life, those are minor details.

Stories like the Martinez family’s remind us that life can be unpredictable and tragic, which makes those promises feel even heavier. Yet, instead of wishing things were different, I find myself incredibly grateful for the trust they’ve placed in us regarding their children. That’s a profound responsibility.

The reality is, the odds that we’ll ever need to fulfill that promise are slim. But if the day ever comes, we wouldn’t hesitate to embrace those kids as part of our family. It would truly be an honor.

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Summary

In this casual reflection, I share the weighty promise I made to my friends to care for their children if anything were to happen to them. Despite the seriousness of the promise, I feel honored by their trust and would gladly welcome the kids into our home if needed. Life can be unpredictable, but the bonds we form with those we love are what truly matter.