You know how seasoned parents can’t resist handing out advice to new moms and dads? Their hearts are in the right place, but sometimes what they say just doesn’t hit home for those sleep-deprived and overwhelmed. “Savor every moment!” is a classic line that new parents love to hear—even if it’s laced with a hint of annoyance. Let’s be real: no one is cherishing every second of a fussy baby wailing for hours or a toddler throwing a fit in the middle of a store. It can come off as patronizing, suggesting that parents aren’t appreciating their little ones enough.
So, when your kids are older and you feel the urge to share some “helpful hints” with frazzled-looking new parents you encounter, take a moment to remember how those comments made you feel when you hadn’t slept in what felt like forever. If your memory needs a nudge, here’s a little reminder:
“Make sure to take care of yourself so you can better care for the baby.”
How you felt: Sure, can you whip me up a snack and find my toothbrush while you’re at it?
“If you breastfeed, the baby weight will just disappear.”
How you felt: Yeah right, I’m not Kate Middleton looking fabulous on my way out of the hospital! And if you mention my post-baby belly one more time, I might just show up at your door with my cellulite.
“Sleep when the baby sleeps.”
How you felt: And miss out on showering, cooking, using the bathroom, or writing thank-you notes for all the adorable outfits everyone thought I needed?
“Make time for yourself away from the baby to relax.”
How you felt: Great advice, now hand over your wallet to pay for my non-existent babysitter, then tell me how relaxing it is to pump milk in a public restroom.
“Don’t forget to nurture your relationship with your partner, or weeds will grow.”
How you felt: If we’re talking about the kind of weed that helps me chill, then yes please! Otherwise, if he comes near me, I might just lose it.
“Don’t try to do too much in one day; chores can wait.”
How you felt: Sorry, I can’t hear you over the mountains of laundry and the echo from my empty fridge.
“The days may be long, but the years are short.”
How you felt: Sure, that’s probably true. Is it naptime yet?
This post highlights the challenges of parenting and reminds us that while advice may come from a good place, it’s essential to tread carefully. For more insights and tips on parenting and home insemination, check out this post from our other blog. If you’re exploring options for starting a family, sites like Make a Mom offer valuable resources. And you might find Progyny to be an excellent resource for all things pregnancy and home insemination.
In summary, while offering advice to new parents can feel like sharing wisdom, it’s crucial to remember how those comments are received amid the chaos of early parenthood. Approach with empathy and understanding.