Wow, time flies! My little one is already 10 weeks old, and I find myself reminiscing about those early days, which felt both daunting and precious. Reflecting on the support we received from friends, family, and neighbors truly amazed me. Their creativity and practicality in offering help were nothing short of incredible!
Since many new moms are in need of support, I wanted to share some fantastic ways to lend a hand to your favorite new parent:
- Organize a Meal Train: A dear friend set this up for me after my babies were born. It was such a loving and practical gesture! Websites like Foodtidings.com and Mealtrain.com make it super easy to coordinate meal deliveries for free. We enjoyed delicious meals for three whole weeks!
- Deliver a Meal: Whether or not there’s a meal train, bringing over a hearty meal for the whole family is always appreciated. Friends brought everything from our favorite takeout to home-cooked casseroles. Leftovers are a major win, and if dinner doesn’t fit into your schedule, consider offering breakfast or lunch instead!
- Run Errands: On the day I went into labor, I had long shopping lists for Target and Costco. Thankfully, two friends asked if they could pick anything up for me once I got home from the hospital. Be prepared for a list, though—I didn’t hold back with my close pals!
- Surprise Grocery Delivery: In those first few weeks, it can be tough for new parents to think about what they need. Unexpected grocery goodies, like a case of bottled water, snacks for older kids, or ready-made meals, can be lifesavers.
- Take the Older Kids for a Few Hours: What a blessing! One of my friends picked up my toddler for a morning playdate, allowing me to bond with the new baby in peace. It felt like a mini-vacation!
- Invite the Family Out for Dinner: A friend suggested taking us out for dinner instead of bringing over food. After being cooped up for days, I jumped at the chance to get out! Newborns are easy to manage compared to toddlers.
- Help with Cleaning: My mom came over almost daily in those first weeks, and she couldn’t stand the mess. She tackled everything from the pantry to the toys, which was truly a blessing. If cleaning isn’t your jam, consider hiring a service as a thoughtful gift.
- Hold the Baby: Offer to watch the new baby while mom takes a shower or naps. Even just half an hour of freedom can feel like a luxury!
- Get Their Car Washed: It might be a while before your friend has the time to clean their car. Taking it for a wash can be a kind gesture that restores some normalcy.
- Bring Gifts for the Older Siblings: Diapers, clothes, or toys are always welcome. Bonus points if you pick up something for the older siblings, as they may be feeling a bit neglected right now.
- Mind Your Visit Length: My friends were great about this. New moms appreciate short visits filled with love (and maybe some treats), so be mindful not to overstay.
- Consider Bringing Your Kids: Some new moms are okay with visitors who bring their kids, while others are not. Just check in with your friend before you come over, and encourage your kids to be gentle around the newborn.
- Wash Your Hands: Before holding the baby, clean your hands to help ease any worries the new mom might have about germs.
- Offer Encouragement: Uplifting words can mean the world to a new parent. Compliment her, reassure her, and let her know she’s doing great—it’s likely she feels overwhelmed.
- Avoid Asking “What Can I Do?”: Most new moms will say they’re fine, but they may need more help than they let on. Instead, offer specific suggestions based on the list above.
I hope these ideas inspire you to support your friend during this chaotic yet beautiful time! Now, I must go—my little munchkins are demanding snacks, and my standards are officially gone forever, but I couldn’t be happier.
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Summary:
Supporting a friend with a newborn can take many forms. From organizing meal trains and running errands to offering short visits and encouragement, the little things can make a big difference. Thoughtful gestures are greatly appreciated, and they help ease the transition into parenthood.