By: Olivia James
Updated: Aug. 23, 2023
Originally Published: Aug. 15, 2011
Recently, a school administrator approached me about taking on the role of chair for the first-grade annual fund committee. I graciously declined, thanking her for the opportunity but explaining that I’ve navigated that volunteer maze before, and I simply don’t have the bandwidth for it. Becoming a mom in my forties has sharpened my focus on what truly matters. There are worthwhile activities (like devouring snacks while binge-watching my favorite shows or getting lost in the aisles of Target) and then there’s everything else that can drain your energy. To help you maintain your sanity, here are some valuable hacks I’ve picked up along the way.
Conquering Customer Service Headaches
When your little one is in the middle of a game of “Mommy, where are my socks?” and you need to resolve an issue with a double doctor charge or a baffling phone bill, it can be frustrating. Remember, even if the customer service rep seems miles away (and possibly has the warmth of a wet sock), you still hold the power. Simply ask, “Can I please speak to the manager?” If they hesitate, repeat yourself calmly—like your child asking “Are we there yet?” on a long road trip. When the manager comes on, share your story and use the term “unacceptable” generously. You’ll be amazed at how quickly you’ll get what you need.
Handling Rude Comments
During playdates—those moments when moms bond over wine while kids run wild—someone might make an offhand remark that rubs you the wrong way. If that happens, here’s a tip I learned from my former mentor, whom I affectionately call “Boss Lady.” If the comment comes from a mom who isn’t the leader of the group, simply act as if it never happened and shift your focus to the more supportive moms around you. However, if it’s the “Queen Bee” mom, stand your ground. A simple, nonchalant “Whatever” can be effective, followed by a change of subject. If she confronts you further, respond with curiosity about her behavior and then gracefully exit the conversation. Save your energy—don’t dwell on it later. Take a page from Elsa and just “Let It Go!”
Gift Wrapping Made Easy
When it comes to birthday parties, I’m all about picking out the perfect gift. But the wrapping? No thanks. I find it tedious and time-consuming. Instead, try visiting a local bookstore like Barnes & Noble. If you enroll in their gift card program, you can get your presents wrapped for free! Alternatively, look for stores that offer complimentary gift-wrapping services that can make your gifts look fabulous without the hassle.
Creating Personal Space
Public transport can be an invasion of personal space, especially when it’s not crowded. My go-to trick is to create a barrier by coughing, sniffling, or even pretending to sneeze. This not only helps maintain your space but also deters unwanted conversations with nosy strangers. It’s particularly effective during flu season!
Maximizing Quality Time
If your partner is eager for some intimate time, but it often feels like planning a diplomatic visit, here’s a fun hack: Wait for one of those nights when he’s working late. Once the kids are in bed, freshen up and put on something that makes you feel good (even if it’s just your favorite comfy t-shirt). When he walks in, surprise him for a quick and guilt-free moment. He’ll feel appreciated, and you’ll have time for a little Netflix binge afterward.
As a midlife mom, I understand the value of time. Whether you’re in the thick of parenting or just starting out, your time is precious. So, take these tips to heart and remember that time waits for no mom!
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Summary:
This article provides moms with practical life hacks to navigate parenting challenges, from dealing with customer service issues to handling rude comments during playdates. It emphasizes the importance of prioritizing one’s time and offers creative solutions for everyday dilemmas.