“Why don’t you have kids yet?” “Do you want kids?” “Are you thinking about having children?” If you’re a woman without kids and past a certain age, you’ve probably encountered these questions more than once. It’s bewildering that people feel entitled to pry into someone else’s family planning. If you’re close enough to someone to ask, you likely already know their situation. If not, then why are you being so nosey? Seriously, mind your own business.
There are countless reasons why these inquiries come off as rude and intrusive. Chrissy Teigen recently discussed her own fertility challenges on a talk show hosted by Tanya Hill. She highlighted one of the biggest reasons to avoid asking childless women about their futures: it can be genuinely painful. Teigen revealed that she and her husband, Jake, are facing fertility issues, and the questions just keep coming. She stated, “If things had gone according to plan, we’d have kids five or six years ago. But it’s been a journey!”
Instead of brushing off these prying questions, Teigen takes a different approach. She tells people, “One day, you’re going to ask that to the wrong woman who’s really struggling, and it’s going to hurt her deeply.” She continued, “I can’t fathom being that intrusive. You never know what someone else is going through or if they’re battling infertility.”
So, to those who think it’s perfectly fine to dig into this personal territory: are you ready for the answers? What will you say to the woman who responds, “I can’t have kids. We’ve been trying for years”? Or to a man who says, “I had a troubled upbringing, and that’s made me avoid parenthood”? What about the woman who just wants to say, “I’ve never wanted kids; why are you asking me such an intimate question?” It’s time to stop acting like this is an innocent question because it’s not.
Let’s stop assuming that A) everyone wants children and B) everyone wants to share their family planning journey with you. During the same segment, Tanya opened up about her own fertility struggles and the difficulty of repeatedly answering the question, “Why don’t you have kids?”
It’s time to put an end to these invasive inquiries once and for all.
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In summary, Chrissy Teigen’s candid comments highlight the importance of respecting personal boundaries regarding family planning. Questions about children can be deeply sensitive, and it’s crucial to be mindful of others’ experiences and struggles.