15 Thoughtful Ways to Support Your Friend with a Newborn

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It’s hard to believe my little one is already 10 weeks old, and I find myself reminiscing about those early days—both daunting and precious. During that time, I was incredibly grateful for the outpouring of support from friends, family, and neighbors. Their creativity and practicality in offering help left me in awe.

Since I know new moms everywhere could use a hand, I want to share some heartfelt ways you can assist your new favorite mama:

1. Organize a Meal Train: One of my closest friends set this up for me after each of my births, and it was a lifesaver! Websites like Foodtidings.com and Mealtrain.com make it easy to create meal calendars. We enjoyed home-cooked meals for three weeks straight!
2. Deliver a Meal: Even without a meal train, bringing over a hearty meal for the whole family is always appreciated. From favorite take-out to homemade dishes, any food is a welcome treat. Breakfast or lunch also works—new parents need sustenance all day long!
3. Offer to Run Errands: On the day I went into labor, I had a long shopping list for Target and Costco. Luckily, two friends volunteered to help. If you ask, be prepared for a detailed list, as I didn’t hold back since they were close friends.
4. Surprise Grocery Delivery: In those early weeks, even the simplest tasks can feel overwhelming. Unexpected grocery deliveries are a great way to relieve some stress. Think essentials like water bottles, snacks, and ready-to-eat meals.
5. Take Older Siblings for a Playdate: What a blessing this was! A friend picked up my 2-year-old for a few hours, allowing me to enjoy some precious time with my newborn. The house felt so peaceful—almost like a vacation!
6. Invite the Family Out for Dinner: A friend once suggested taking the whole family out for dinner instead of bringing a meal. I hadn’t left the house in days, and going out with the baby was a great change of pace!
7. Help with House Cleaning: My mom visited nearly every day in those early weeks, helping to tidy up my chaotic home. If cleaning isn’t your thing, consider hiring a service as a thoughtful gift. What mom wouldn’t appreciate that?
8. Hold the Baby While Mom Catches Some Z’s: Just stopping by to hold the baby so mom can shower or nap is a fantastic way to help. Even a short break can feel like a luxury for a new mom.
9. Get Their Car Washed: With a newborn, finding time to keep up with car maintenance is tough. Treat your friend by taking their car for a wash—it’ll make a world of difference!
10. Bring Gifts for the Whole Family: Gifts are always welcome! From diapers to toys, practical items are especially useful. Bonus points if you grab something for older siblings, as they may feel a little left out during this transition.
11. Mind Your Visit Duration: It’s important to not overstay your welcome. Pop in to chat and bring some goodies, but keep it brief. New moms are often juggling a lot!
12. Be Mindful About Bringing Kids: Every mom has different preferences about visits from other kids. It’s best to communicate first and ensure your kids aren’t adding to the chaos.
13. Practice Good Hygiene: Before holding the baby, wash your hands or use hand sanitizer. This simple act helps your friend feel more at ease.
14. Offer Encouragement: Take the time to affirm your friend. Remind her that she’s doing great and that it’s normal to feel overwhelmed. Your visit can be a ray of sunshine in her day.
15. Avoid Asking “What Can I Do?”: Often, new moms will say they’re fine when they really need help. Instead, offer specific assistance based on the tips above, and you may find they appreciate it more.

I hope you find these suggestions helpful! Now, if you’ll excuse me, I’ve got little ones to feed and my standards have officially hit rock bottom, but I couldn’t be happier.

For more insights on navigating motherhood, check out our blog on home insemination. And for a deeper dive into fertility topics, Make a Mom is a great resource. Additionally, if you’re considering fertility treatments, March of Dimes offers excellent guidance.

Summary: Supporting a friend with a newborn can take many forms, from organizing meal trains to offering a listening ear. Practical help, thoughtful gifts, and encouragement can make a world of difference during this challenging yet beautiful time.