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My Son is Unaware of His Identity
My son doesn’t yet realize he’s black. He knows he has a darker complexion than me, who is lighter, and that his dad is white. However, he is blissfully unaware of the complexities and challenges that come with having dark skin in our society. Concepts like the history of slavery, segregation laws, or the milestones of the Civil Rights Movement are foreign to him. He hasn’t heard about the events in places like Ferguson or Cleveland, nor does he understand the significance of the phrase “black lives matter.” To him, skin color is just that—color—and nothing more.
While my son may not know the struggles of the African American community in this country now, that day will come. I know it won’t be long before he’s made aware of his differences from his parents and that he is, in fact, black. Once he starts school, he’ll learn about African American history every February and understand that the freedoms we enjoy are not a given. Our family, a mix of different hues, serves as a testament to the liberties fought for by so many.
As he discovers the painful past, he will also learn about the incredible progress made by ordinary people living extraordinary lives. He’ll hear about the courage of figures like Harriet Tubman, the determination of Rosa Parks, the inspiring leadership of Martin Luther King Jr., and the trailblazing spirit of Jackie Robinson. He’ll come to appreciate the laws that have been enacted, the progress that has been made, and the ongoing struggle for racial equality and unity.
At this moment, my son is simply happy to use a variety of crayons to represent the skin tones of those he loves. To him, love and trust are not limited to any one color; they’re given to those who deserve it. Even as a young child, he grasps that love and trust are foundational to relationships, leading the way toward forgiveness and togetherness. These values can extinguish the flames of hatred and fear, creating strong bonds where division once existed. Love has the power to heal.
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In summary, while my son may not yet understand his identity as a black child, the time will come when he will. For now, he embodies love and trust, which are essential in overcoming barriers and fostering unity.