Words of Wisdom for My 20-Year-Old (And Myself)

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As my daughter, Lily, prepares to embark on her adventure to Paris, I feel it’s crucial to ensure that the invaluable nuggets of wisdom I’ve shared over the years firmly resonate with her. I often wake up in a panic, hoping she’s packed not just her clothes, but also a healthy dose of common sense and courtesy. Each morning, I sneak into her room, whispering little reminders, hoping they stick. While I want her to hold on to these teachings, I also reflect on the lessons I wish I had grasped at her age:

1. Choose wisely. Your decisions regarding your body, emotions, friendships, relationships, and finances can profoundly shape who you become.
2. Stay connected. A big move affects the whole family, so take time to check in.
3. Beware of credit card traps. If you can’t afford it, you don’t need it!
4. Get outside and enjoy fresh air. And don’t forget the sunscreen!
5. Smile at strangers—it can brighten someone’s tough day.
6. Support kids selling lemonade—it’s good karma.
7. Be truthful, but don’t share everything just to feel better about yourself.
8. Kindness goes a long way, but don’t let people take advantage of you.
9. Volunteer your time; it enriches your life and others’.
10. Prioritize sleep at night, but don’t underestimate the power of an afternoon nap.
11. Use the buddy system for safety!
12. Everyone carries their own baggage, even if it isn’t visible.
13. Always tip at least 15%. Remember, kitchen staff and waitstaff are not the same.
14. Focus on the positives—it’s more uplifting than complaining.
15. If you’re unhappy, make a change.
16. Listen and practice patience; they are vital skills.
17. Set ground rules with roommates early to avoid conflicts later.
18. Return borrowed items in the same condition you received them.
19. Write to your grandparents; consider sending handwritten letters to different people each month.
20. Send real thank-you notes! Texts and emails don’t count.
21. Lend money with caution; don’t expect it back to avoid disappointment.
22. Embrace new experiences and adventures.
23. Don’t fear failure; it often means you’re learning and growing.
24. Keep an eye on deadlines; missing them can have lasting consequences.
25. Remember, what you post online lasts forever. Adjust your privacy settings!
26. Journal about both the good and the challenging times; share it when you’re ready.
27. Don’t leave the gas tank empty for the next driver—same goes for toilet paper!
28. Seek advice from others, but feel free to take or leave it.
29. Read for fun, knowledge, hobbies, or work. Just read!
30. Trust your instincts—if you can’t stand by your choice, rethink it.

Lily has started taking some of my advice to heart and even chosen some lovely stationery and blank journals from the store. She’s also bought a planner, which eases some of my mom worries.

I take comfort in knowing she has the adventurous spirit and confidence to pack her bags and embrace new challenges. My daughter is ready to explore the world, embodying the best advice I received as a new parent: “Raise her to be a strong and independent woman who wants to live life fully.” If you’re interested, you can check out more tips on home insemination at this link.

In summary, as you navigate your twenties, remember to make thoughtful choices, stay connected with family, embrace new experiences, and keep learning. You’ve got this!