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Three Funerals and a Wedding
The film Four Weddings and a Funeral debuted the same year I finished college, and I vividly remember wishing I could leap into that charming world. It was a realm where slightly awkward British singles navigated the intricate landscape of love and loss, all while attending opulent events and staying in castles and pubs. Hugh Grant was at his endearing, bumbling best, surrounded by a group that felt like a delightful blend of friends and family. Back then, it seemed like the perfect depiction of regular people handling the overwhelming weight of genuine love and heartache.
Fast-forward over twenty years, and I find myself happily married to my very own floppy-haired prince, with no scandals that I know of. We have three wonderful kids and a lively extended family that brings us endless joy, mixed with just enough chaos to keep life interesting. Our circle of friends, both old and new, provides laughter and support. If I had to describe our life in cinematic terms, I’d say it’s a mash-up of My Big Fat Greek Wedding—Egyptian edition, mixed with Steel Magnolias—Midwestern style, all topped with a sprinkle of Toy Story.
However, last week, my desire to immerse myself in Four Weddings and a Funeral almost came true, but in reverse. In a twist of fate, I found myself attending three funerals and a wedding within five days. First, I received the sad news about my friend’s mother, who had been ill for quite some time. Two days later, another friend’s mother was laid to rest after a courageous battle with Alzheimer’s. The following day, I learned that a former colleague had lost his wife. I started to dread logging into Facebook, as my newsfeed seemed stuck in a loop of heartbreak.
Describing that week as strange feels like an understatement—like calling Gigli merely disappointing. I spent my days shuttling the kids to swim practice and vacation Bible school, squeezing in my work, then quickly changing from my usual mom attire of shorts and a T-shirt into a simple black dress as soon as my husband arrived home. As I prepared to watch two daughters, now mothers themselves, say their final goodbyes to their own mothers, I was overcome with emotion when my little girl hugged me tightly and said, “Come right back, Mama.”
In one of the most surreal moments, we actually stopped at the third funeral en route to the wedding. In just one hour, we witnessed a man pledge to love, honor, and cherish, while another mourned having done just that. It was a cycle of life that could leave even Mufasa feeling dizzy.
As my husband and I sat hand in hand at the wedding, it struck me that I hadn’t attended many funerals in my life. My grandparents and close relatives passed away overseas. Growing up, my parents lost friends, but those events were always adult affairs—not often discussed around kids. I come from a culture that excels at celebrating love. We adore love, as shown by the 500-plus guests (a typical crowd for us) who gathered to eat, drink, and revel alongside the happy couple. With abundant food, live music, and belly dancing, we shine at weddings, engagements, and baby showers. But loss? That’s where we struggle.
Recently, I have attended funerals labeled “Celebrations of Life.” It’s a challenging concept for me because when grief blankets our community, everything dims. There’s little laughter, and certainly no celebration. Funeral homes echo with silence, interrupted only by weeping and fervent prayers. Traditionally, widows and close family members wear black for a year after losing a loved one, sometimes even for life. Perhaps when you love deeply, the void left by that love is a wound that never fully heals. But is there a way for love and loss to coexist?
The poet Rumi believed sorrow and joy are deeply entwined. He wrote, “Sorrow prepares you for joy. It violently sweeps everything out of your house, so that new joy can find space to enter.” I pondered that quote the day after my whirlwind week of three funerals and a wedding. That morning, attending church with my family, my youngest insisted we light a candle. Hand in hand, we dipped a long match into the flame of an already lit candle, igniting a new wick. His face lit up as he watched it flicker, reflecting the dance of light and dark in his warm, brown eyes. It was a moment reminiscent of when your favorite movie springs to life on screen, or when it fades away, where light and darkness briefly coexist.
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To summarize, life is a series of events that intertwine joy and sorrow, love and loss, and sometimes even weddings and funerals. It’s a reminder that even in the toughest times, we can find moments of light to guide us through.