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What to Expect When Your Child Loses Their Lovey
One evening during my teenage years, I received a frantic phone call.
“Hello?”
“Hey, do you know where Mr. Cuddles is?” a panicked voice asked. “Did you see it when you were here? Did you take it outside? It’s OK if you did! We just need to know. We can’t find Mr. Cuddles, Jessica. Where is he?!”
It was the mother of the kids I had babysat that afternoon. Mr. Cuddles was the beloved stuffed animal of one of those little ones, and sleep was impossible without it. Back then, I didn’t understand the chaos and heartache that losing a lovey could cause. I felt bad for the family, but I thought it was a bit ridiculous for an adult to get so worked up over a missing toy.
Now that I’m a parent myself, I can assure you: the struggle is all too real. Losing that cherished lovey can lead to some rather absurd situations. Here’s what typically unfolds:
- The Universe Feels Against You
You were so close to getting the kids tucked in for the night. Just a little teeth-brushing, followed by a story, a song, and then it was time for grown-up relaxation. But instead, you discover that the precious lovey is missing. Suddenly, your dreams of a peaceful evening begin to fade away as you reluctantly head back downstairs to search. - Your Eyes Stop Working
The lovey, being so intertwined with your child’s daily life, takes on a color that seems to blend in with everything and nothing at once. You could search every inch of your home, eyes wide open, and still not spot the elusive toy. - Lovey Rivalry
You might start to feel like your child has a deeper affection for that lovey than for you. They can drift off to sleep without you, but not without that tattered puppy or blankie. Fine then, Mr. Cuddles, why don’t you handle all the chores around here while you’re at it? - Frustration Sets In
This type of anger is frustrating because it has no clear target. With no one to blame, you find yourself kicking over toys and stomping around in search of the lovey. If your partner checks a spot you’ve already searched, you can’t help but snap, “I just looked there! Ugh, this is the worst!” - Desperate Bargaining
You start to negotiate like a desperate salesperson. “How about tonight, just for a special treat, you get to sleep with the fabulous, the marvelous, the absolutely delightful… Rainbow Unicorn!” You put on a show, complete with dance moves, but your child is having none of it. You knew it wouldn’t work, but in your panic, you had to try. - A Search Party is Formed
You rally the troops, declaring it a mission of utmost importance. Your toddler is rummaging through the trash, announcing their findings: “Old sandwich! Something sticky!” You might even try to coax the family dog into helping by waving a different lovey in front of them, but alas, they would rather lounge on the couch than assist. - The Lovey is Found
Eventually, and miraculously, you locate the missing lovey. Maybe it was tucked away in a shoe or hiding in the toy box you kicked earlier. At this point, it doesn’t even matter where it was; you’re just relieved to have it back. You toss the lovey onto your child’s bed, turn off the lights, and collapse in exhaustion.
Now I understand the panic that mother felt when she called me all those years ago. My teenage nonchalance was anything but helpful, and for that, I apologize. Any parent knows losing a lovey is no laughing matter.
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In summary, losing a child’s beloved lovey can lead to a whirlwind of emotions and chaos, but ultimately, it is a relatable and common parenting experience.