I really had a tough time figuring out my “mom” identity when I first stepped into motherhood. Surrounded by amazing moms with their own standout skills, I felt the pressure to do it all. But I quickly realized that I couldn’t juggle everything. I needed to discover what kind of mom I wanted to be and embrace that. That meant setting priorities and letting other things slide. Here are some of the moms I’m definitely not:
The Mom Who Hosts Epic Playdates
You know the type—the one with Play-Doh, painting stations, and super fun science experiments waiting for your little ones. Her home is like a mini amusement park, complete with themed decorations and snacks that could rival a birthday party. I’m not that mom. My playdates are pretty laid-back. Honestly, the thought of dealing with a bunch of kids painting in my living room sends my stress levels through the roof.
The Mom Who Has It All Together
She’s got twins, a toddler, and even a dog at the park. Oh, and did I mention she’s pregnant? Her children are always well-mannered and polite. I’m not that mom. Right now, my kids are arguing over a sandbox shovel like it’s the last toy on Earth.
The Mom Who Should Win a Cooking Show
Her meals are Instagram-worthy, and they taste divine! My kids will chow down on her creations, but they’d turn their noses up at the same dishes if I made them. My husband secretly hopes I could whip up meals like that. But, I’m not that mom. My cooking is super simple, and we tend to eat the same few meals on repeat.
The Mom Who Organizes Everything
She’s involved in the PTA, runs a book club, and organizes neighborhood events. I’m not that mom. I don’t have the social energy or the time to manage all those commitments.
The Mom Who’s Crafty Beyond Belief
She knits, sews matching outfits for her kids, and even has an Etsy shop! I’m not that mom. My sewing skills are limited, and I don’t find joy in repetitive crafting projects. I’ll just buy from her Etsy store instead.
The Mom with a Pristine Home
Her house looks like it belongs in a magazine. Even her playroom is perfectly organized and spotless. She apologizes for the mess when there isn’t even a speck of dust. I am not that mom. If you stop by my place, you’ll see toys scattered everywhere and beds that haven’t been made.
The Mom Who Drinks Coffee
I know many of my mom friends thrive on coffee. But, I’m not that mom. I’ve tried it, but it just isn’t for me. If we meet at a coffee shop, I’ll be the one sipping tea—and I’m perfectly fine with that.
I’ve learned that I’m at my happiest when I stop trying to be THAT mom. I need to be THIS mom—the one with a slightly messy house, kids who don’t always behave, and a relaxed attitude towards organizing events. I’m the mom who makes an effort to serve nutritious meals but also lets the kids indulge in junk food sometimes. Most importantly, I’m the mom who wants to create joyful memories with my children, and that’s more than enough for us.
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Summary:
Navigating motherhood can be challenging, especially when comparing ourselves to other moms. It’s important to embrace our unique identities and set priorities that align with our values, rather than striving for perfection. By focusing on what truly matters—creating happy memories with our kids—we can find fulfillment and joy in our parenting journey.