I Can’t Believe I Do These 10 Things

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Before becoming a mom, I was the epitome of organization. I couldn’t fathom how anyone could manage life in chaos. I thrived on planning, structure, and thinking of others. Fast forward to my life now with kids, and I often feel like I’m barely keeping my head above water. I despise that I’ve morphed into the frantic parent I used to judge, but it seems to be part of the territory. Juggling two energetic boys means that some things just slip through the cracks. Here are 10 habits I wish I could shake, but they seem to have become my new normal:

1. I forget to reply to texts. If a text doesn’t get an immediate response, it’s likely to be forgotten completely. I have a terrible habit of checking messages the moment they come through, just to clear that annoying little notification bubble. This often leads to me forgetting to continue the conversation later. Sure, I’d love to respond, but life gets in the way. I could ask friends to text me again, but they’re probably in the same boat!
2. I set multiple alarms for daily tasks. Before kids, I never understood how someone could miss picking up their child on time. Now, I rely on alarms to remind me when it’s time to get ready to pick up my little one from school. I have to be reminded about everything—like when to get pumpkins for school events or when birthdays are approaching.
3. I can’t remember anything without my smartphone. This is directly tied to my love-hate relationship with my calendar. My brain is so full that if I jot something down, I tend to forget about it entirely. Birthdays, phone numbers, and even simple facts just slip my mind unless I have my trusty device handy. I can’t even remember a grocery list without help from my note-taking app.
4. If it’s not on my calendar, it doesn’t exist. My husband could mention a meeting, but if it’s not on my calendar, I won’t remember it. This leads to awkward surprises when he’s out and I thought he’d be home. I even struggle to remember my own commitments unless they’re marked with alerts.
5. I overbook and have to reschedule. I hate canceling plans, but I’ve found myself forgetting prior commitments and saying yes to new ones. I can’t even use the excuse of not having it in my calendar; I just didn’t look at it until it was too late!
6. We are rarely early and often late. Punctuality was my mantra pre-kids. Now, just getting out the door on time feels like a mini-miracle. I hate being late for appointments or gatherings, but with kids, there’s always a last-minute diaper change or bathroom trip.
7. I’m never caught up. My to-do list is endless, and I keep it just to remember what needs to be done. My house is always in need of cleaning, my work feels perpetual, and my kids are always hungry for another meal. When I finally sit down to relax, I feel guilty for not tackling something on my list instead.
8. I don’t reach out to loved ones as much. I used to be great at checking in with friends and family, but now I have to set reminders just to say “hi.” I used to know what was going on in their lives without needing a prompt, but now it feels like a chore.
9. I don’t plan thoughtful gifts anymore. With my busy life, I struggle to put together meaningful gifts or plan nice outings. Most gifts are last-minute and lack the personal touch I used to cherish. I hate that I’ve fallen into this routine, but hopefully, one day I’ll find the time to be thoughtful again.
10. I rarely wrap gifts. Speaking of gifts, wrapping has become a lost art for me. If you’re lucky, you’ll find your present in a gift bag; otherwise, it may just come in its original store bag.

I’m sure I’m not alone in feeling like I’ve transformed into the disorganized parent I once thought I’d never be. Maybe if I reached out to my mom friends right now, we’d all commiserate about the same struggles (though, as I mentioned, I probably wouldn’t hear back quickly!).

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In summary, motherhood can lead to a whirlwind of disorganization and chaotic habits that we never anticipated. While we may struggle with these changes, it’s important to acknowledge them and find ways to adapt as we navigate our busy lives.