A little while back, I attended a work event and encountered a young girl selling handmade jewelry to help her mom pay a bill. I felt a connection to her cause and decided to buy a bracelet that caught my eye. It’s a simple blue knotted piece of yarn with the word “FREE” on it. This bracelet serves as a daily reminder that I’m now living life on my own terms. After years of being in a relationship, this little token helps me shift my mindset and embrace my independence. While the divorce process can be tough and being a single working parent has its challenges, there are plenty of silver linings. Here are 21 reasons I’m glad to be on my own:
- I call the shots. During my marriage, I often let my ex-husband dictate how things were done, from dinner choices to household chores. Now, I have the freedom to make decisions that reflect who I am.
- Food freedom! I can eat whatever I crave, whenever I want, without worrying about judgment. Midnight ice cream binges? Yes, please!
- My finances. I no longer have to stress about someone overspending. I manage my money and feel empowered knowing exactly where every dollar goes.
- No more waiting. I no longer find myself anxious, waiting up late for someone else to come home. The loneliness can creep in sometimes, but at least I’m no longer filled with resentment.
- Less mess. Juggling work and kids is hectic enough without extra clutter. I love my organized space and don’t miss picking up after someone else.
- My schedule. I can prioritize my plans without considering anyone else’s agenda. The time I have is truly mine.
- No need for validation. I spent years trying to please my ex, often feeling like I fell short. Now, my self-worth comes from within.
- Wardrobe choice. I get to pick clothes that make me happy. My style reflects me, even if it’s on a budget!
- Less criticism. When I mess up, I take responsibility, but I no longer have someone pointing out my flaws constantly.
- More space. I actually enjoy having my own bed and closet space. It’s nice to have room to breathe.
- Control of the remote. The TV is mine at night after the kids are asleep. I can watch whatever I like!
- Holidays my way. I can celebrate with my family when I have the kids or take a breather when they’re with their dad.
- My pace. I’m punctual and hate waiting. Now, I set the rhythm for my life.
- New possibilities. I can explore new relationships without the constraints of a previous marriage. Who knows what the future holds?
- Bedtime is mine. I can crash as soon as the kids are asleep without distractions from a partner.
- Stress-free living. Being single reduces the pressure that often comes with partnership.
- My opinions matter. My life is much more peaceful now that I’m not engaging in constant debates.
- Creative freedom. I can write, paint, and pursue my passions. I believe in myself again!
- No excuses. I’m no longer part of a duo, which means I can focus on my own choices without defending anyone else’s actions.
- Driving my own life. I’m in control of where I’m going—literally and metaphorically!
- I shape my future. I don’t regret my past; it brought me three amazing kids. I’m excited for the many adventures ahead.
For too long, I compromised and lost sight of myself. Now, as a divorced woman, I feel empowered and free, with my bracelet reminding me to hold onto that feeling. If you’re interested in learning more about home insemination, check out this blog post for useful insights. And for those looking to dive deeper into the topic, resources like Cleveland Clinic’s podcast can be incredibly helpful.
In summary, while divorce may present its challenges, it also opens the door to self-discovery and independence. Embracing this new chapter has been liberating.