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Why Being an Only Child—and Raising One—Can Be Quite Wonderful
Being an only child has its unique charm. And by charm, I mean it’s truly fantastic. As I navigate life as an only child and raise my own, I’ve found myself reflecting on this experience more than ever.
Growing up, I often sensed pity from other kids and parents regarding my lack of siblings. Adults would make assumptions that I was a “spoiled brat” and could be socially awkward, purely based on my only-child status. While some of those traits might have a bit of truth, I never quite understood why they were thought to be exclusive to only children. I know many people with siblings who could easily be labeled as difficult or unstable.
To be honest, my childhood was pretty idyllic. I was raised in a middle-class neighborhood by hardworking parents who provided me with everything I needed. I was the only child in my extended family, which meant I was often the center of attention. I did have three step-cousins nearby, who were the closest thing I had to siblings, and I cherished our time together.
While I occasionally pretended to want a sibling during elementary school, I genuinely enjoyed being an only child. I made friends easily and learned to share (eventually). I developed a strong work ethic, became quite independent, and built a close bond with my parents. I liked having my own space and was often labeled as bossy and particular, but that doesn’t necessarily correlate with being an only child.
The only downside I’ve noticed as I approach my 40s is the solitude that sometimes comes with being the only child. Watching my parents age, especially when my father has faced serious health issues, can feel overwhelming at times. But would having a sibling guarantee a stronger support system? Not every sibling relationship is perfect. Instead, I’ve formed strong connections with friends and cousins, which have become my chosen family.
Now, as I raise my daughter, I can’t imagine it any other way. From the moment she was born, I knew I wouldn’t have another child. Motherhood has been such an intense experience that I feel fulfilled with just one. Whether this is influenced by my upbringing or simply my personal preference, who can say?
What matters most is that I am raising her to be a good person with strong character traits. She learns to share, socialize, and understand the value of hard work, just like any child with siblings. Unfortunately, I often encounter surprised or judgmental reactions when people learn I have only one child. Comments like “You can’t just have one!” or “She must be spoiled” are frustrating. My daughter is not suffering by being an only child; it’s not a punishment. I’m raising her to be a well-adjusted individual, and having a sibling wouldn’t change that.
Is she spoiled? To some extent, yes. But that’s not a bad thing. She enjoys a wonderful life because of my hard work. If she had a sibling, that child would also have a charmed life. Ultimately, it all comes down to how we are raised, regardless of whether or not we have siblings. I turned out just fine, and I’m confident my daughter will too.
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In summary, being an only child and raising one can be incredibly fulfilling. It’s all about the love and values instilled in them, whether they have siblings or not.