I Can’t Stand Being Pregnant, and I’m Not Sorry About It

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There’s this idealized notion out there about pregnancy that paints a picture of glowing mothers-to-be, completely enchanted by the miracle growing inside them. Society expects women to embrace every change their bodies undergo, overflowing with gratitude for the chance to nurture new life. If anyone dares to feel otherwise, they’re often labeled as lacking the maternal instinct or, worse, ungrateful.

But here’s the truth: I can’t stand being pregnant. And I’m not apologizing for it. I know I’m not the only one feeling this way.

Sure, I should be in awe of the new life developing within me—it truly is a miraculous process. But honestly, I can’t seem to shake the discomfort long enough to appreciate it. While other moms-to-be are supposedly “glowing” (whatever that means), I’m sweating like I just ran a marathon. While some women claim they’ve never felt better, I’m desperately wishing my husband would help me by putting me out of my misery during yet another bathroom trip. And while others celebrate their growing bellies, I’m cursing mine, which feels more like I’m lugging around bowling balls strapped to my midsection.

It seems that every woman has her own unique pregnancy experience. While some are calmly practicing their Kegels, I’m dealing with swollen body parts and trying to find relief with frozen packs in my underwear. And don’t even get me started on the endless discomfort, from morning sickness to achy joints. The only upside to this whole ordeal seems to be the baby I’ll finally hold after delivery.

Does that mean I’m ungrateful for the chance to conceive and bring a life into this world? Not at all. It doesn’t mean I don’t sympathize with those facing more challenging paths to motherhood. And it certainly doesn’t imply that I love my children any less.

What it does mean is that we shouldn’t be expected to cherish every moment of pregnancy, especially when it can be so difficult and taxing. It’s perfectly fine for women to express our frustrations and complaints without fear of judgment. We love our kids deeply and are incredibly grateful for them, but that doesn’t mean we’re head over heels for the pregnancy experience. We’re simply looking forward to the day our little ones finally arrive—thank goodness!

If you’re interested in more about this topic, check out one of our other blog posts on home insemination, or visit sources like the CDC for valuable information regarding pregnancy and fertility.

In summary, it’s completely normal to feel overwhelmed and even resentful about the challenges of pregnancy. Women everywhere should feel free to share their experiences without feeling pressured to conform to the idealized narrative. We are excited for our little bundles of joy, but we’re also ready to be done with this rollercoaster ride.