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Rekindling the Love for My Partner
A few weeks ago, I was at the mall when I spotted a charming couple sitting on a bench. The man gazed at the woman with such warmth that I couldn’t help but be captivated by their interaction. He had just brought her a delicious cookie, and her face lit up as she took her first bite. When she offered him a taste, he politely declined, embodying the essence of a true gentleman.
As I continued to watch them while checking out, I noticed how engrossed they were in their conversation. His eyes never left her face, and his smile told me she was sharing something delightful. The cookie, momentarily forgotten in her lap, was brushed aside as he tenderly swept a crumb off her cheek. It was evident that he cherished every moment with her, seeking every excuse to connect.
Eventually, I realized I was intruding on their lovely moment, so I left the store. As I walked out, my husband picked up the abandoned cookie from our daughter’s lap and announced it was time to go, completely unaware of my musings.
Joining my husband and daughter, I found myself reflecting on the last time he looked at me like that, filled with love and affection. Honestly, I couldn’t recall it. Watching him engage with our daughter, filled with patience and kindness, starkly contrasted with our own interactions, which had devolved into mundane exchanges about chores and schedules.
It hit me then that our marriage had transformed into a business-like partnership, with my husband seemingly devoting his heart to our little girl. Don’t get me wrong, I adore the bond they share, and I believe he should love her fiercely so she knows what to expect in her own relationships. But, as we walked, I felt like a third wheel, realizing that in our deep love for our child, we had neglected to nurture our love for each other.
I began to worry about the example we were setting for our daughter. Would she one day settle for a relationship devoid of joy, trading it for mere security? That thought worried me more than the disdain I felt from my husband after a recent disagreement.
When we reached the car, he opened the door for our daughter but left me standing in the cold. It seemed he was completely oblivious to my feelings. I climbed into the car, sitting silently as he and our daughter sang along to the radio. After a few minutes, he asked, “What’s wrong?”
Forcing a smile, I replied, “Nothing, just enjoying the music,” masking my real feelings, which is a common coping mechanism for me. I know avoiding conflict isn’t helping, but I’ve often chosen to keep the peace, especially around our daughter.
However, I realized that I needed to address our relationship issues. I chose to focus on the fact that I married a man who loves his child deeply. Some might say I’m settling, but I believe that if he can love her so wholeheartedly, he can also extend that love to me. He likely doesn’t even realize I feel neglected since I often keep quiet, which is my own fault.
As women, we sometimes fall into the trap of trying to be the perfect wives and mothers without asking our partners what they need from us. So, my first step will be to ask him what he needs, while also expressing my own needs—because neither of us can read minds!
I’ll strive to be the partner I hope our daughter will one day look for. This means asking about his day, offering small gestures of affection, and, most importantly, giving him the same loving gaze I long for in return. I believe we can improve from here.
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In summary, it’s essential to rekindle the love between partners, especially when parenting can sometimes overshadow the romantic connection. By communicating openly about needs and taking small steps to show affection, couples can strengthen their bond while setting a positive example for their children.