Let me share something that’s been on my mind. Wouldn’t it be great to live in a world where fathers aren’t praised for simply taking care of their kids? It would be refreshing if parenting was seen as a shared responsibility rather than a favor done by dads.
I know we’re still navigating the journey toward gender equality. Society is continually working to address equal rights for women in the workplace, which is crucial since many women aspire to careers beyond motherhood. Historically, men were viewed primarily as providers, while women were the caregivers, so seeing dads take an active role in childcare is still somewhat novel. However, I feel we should be further along in this journey.
Our Parenting Dynamic
My partner, Tom, and I have a strong and happy marriage. During the week, our parenting roles often feel like we’re managing it solo. From 6 a.m. to 5:30 p.m., I handle the morning routine—cooking breakfast, packing lunches, ensuring the kids are dressed and ready, and walking them to school. After that, I manage the three younger ones, keeping them out of trouble, reading stories, and putting them down for naps.
Then, at 12:30, when they’re napping, Tom takes over. He plays with them, organizes playdates that fill our home with a swarm of kids (which, honestly, gives me a bit of anxiety), helps with homework, and keeps track of school papers. He also makes sure the baby is fed and changed, tidies up toys, and prepares dinner.
Despite everything he does, it’s not extraordinary; it’s just being a parent. People often express surprise, saying, “You’re lucky to have a husband who helps like that.” Well, I didn’t decide to have six kids all by myself; we both chose this life together. Of course, he’s going to pitch in so I can pursue my career!
Tom understands that I’m a better mother when I have the opportunity to work. Not everyone feels that way, and that’s okay. He recognizes that when he watches the kids while I write or when I go out with friends, it’s not babysitting; it’s parenting.
Babysitters and friends lend a hand, but dads are the ones who truly parent. I’m glad we could clarify that.
Resources for Family Planning
If you’re looking for more information on home insemination, check out this helpful resource from March of Dimes. For those considering their options for starting a family, make sure to visit BabyMaker for their expert advice on home insemination kits. And for more insights into parenting and beyond, feel free to explore our other blog post on intracervical insemination.
Conclusion
In summary, let’s celebrate the everyday involvement of fathers in parenting without labeling it as “help.” It’s just what being a parent is all about.