To the New Stay-at-Home Mom: You’ve Got This!

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As I eagerly awaited the arrival of my first child, I was blissfully unprepared for what lay ahead. Honestly, my biggest concern was surviving labor, which filled me with dread. I planned to take a semester off from my teaching position, but beyond that, I had no roadmap for my future.

Then he arrived—an enchanting, intense, and utterly captivating little being. Those initial months were a whirlwind of nursing around the clock and sleepless nights. My husband and I quickly learned that settling him down was a job only we could handle. In hindsight, I realize he probably would have figured it out eventually, but as a brand-new mom, the thought of anyone else stepping in was unfathomable.

Financially, returning to work didn’t add up either. Between commuting costs and the sky-high price of childcare, I’d barely break even. So, I naturally transitioned into the stay-at-home mom (SAHM) role, driven by both necessity and my heart’s calling.

Time flew, and five years later, I welcomed another child. I found part-time work that suited our family schedule, but I’ve primarily been the one holding down the fort at home. I manage the chaos from dawn until my husband comes home, often on little sleep or interrupted rest due to nursing or the endless worries of motherhood.

Let me tell you, it’s no walk in the park. I cherish every moment, yet being a stay-at-home mom is hard work (and don’t let anyone convince you otherwise!). It stretches you in ways you didn’t know were possible, revealing a fierce strength within. It’s a platform for your inner warrior to shine.

As my youngest prepares to start half-day pre-K this fall, I can finally see a glimmer of freedom (and yes, I’m already getting emotional about it). Reflecting back, I realize that when I first embraced the role of SAHM, I was lost and unsure of how to navigate those long, challenging days.

Advice for New Stay-at-Home Moms

So, to all the new moms setting out on this journey, here’s some straightforward advice and insights to help you embrace the beautiful chaos of stay-at-home motherhood:

1. Let It Out! Venting isn’t just okay—it’s essential. Expressing your frustrations doesn’t diminish your love for your kids. They can drive you to the brink of insanity sometimes, and that’s perfectly normal. A little complaining can be cathartic.
2. Don’t Hesitate to Seek Help. This is one area where I’m still learning to improve. If you’re feeling under the weather, it’s perfectly fine to ask your partner to take a day off to help out. Or, if your toddler is throwing a tantrum, don’t hesitate to ask your neighbor to assist with school drop-off. Remember: it truly takes a village. Don’t wear a martyr’s cape—accept support when you need it.
3. Avoid Comparisons. Even those moms who seem to have it all figured out are often struggling behind the scenes. We’re all navigating the chaos of organization, patience, and exhaustion. Yoga pants with holes? Check. Days without showering? Double check.
4. Get Out of the House! I know it can feel like an impossible task to leave the house with kids in tow. Everyone’s hungry at the wrong time, no one wants to get dressed, and the laundry is out of control. But just throw on a jacket over your PJs, scoop up those little ones, and take a stroll around the block. Even a quick chat with the mailman can break the monotony.
5. Ditch the Guilt. For years, I battled with my self-worth as a stay-at-home mom. I questioned if I should be pursuing something more prestigious or utilizing my degree. That guilt is pointless. You can always pick up a career later. Parenthood often provides unexpected skills that enhance our professional lives. And about that no-income thing? Just think of how much you’d cost if you hired yourself—now that’s eye-opening!
6. Make Time for Yourself. This is a tough one to master, especially with little ones around. But it’s crucial. If you don’t take time to recharge, you’ll be running on empty. Whether it’s a 15-minute bath or sneaking your dinner to your bedroom for a peaceful moment, do whatever it takes to reconnect with the person you are outside of motherhood.

Being the primary caregiver for young children can be exhausting, isolating, and sometimes monotonous. But it’s also filled with magical moments that you’ll cherish forever. I know that despite the challenges, I’ll look back on these days with fondness and a longing to relive them again.

So, to all the fresh SAHMs out there: it’s tough, and that’s okay. You’re doing it, creating lasting memories, and trust me, you’re absolutely crushing it! Give yourself some grace and embrace the incredible work you’re doing—it’s some of the most important on the planet.

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Summary

The journey of a new stay-at-home mom can be daunting but rewarding. Embracing the challenges, seeking help, and prioritizing self-care are essential steps. Remember, you’re not alone in the struggles of motherhood, and every moment counts.