As a parent, I generally strike a balance between being firm and fair. I establish boundaries, draw the line at nonsense, and find myself saying “no” to my kids more often than I’d like. No, you can’t have ice cream for breakfast. No, you can’t use your sister as a human shield in the pillow fight. No, you can’t wear your superhero cape to the grocery store.
But then there are those moments when I become a total softy. I relent to their persistent pleas. I turn a blind eye when discipline might be warranted. And I often find myself saying “yes” to things that probably deserve a “no.”
Some days, I just don’t want to be the bad cop anymore. I’m tired of being labeled the Meanest Mom Ever for enforcing bath time. Other times, I give in simply because I’m too exhausted to argue. Sometimes, I say “yes” because they’re adorable and let’s be real—childhood is for a little indulgence and some questionable choices. And sometimes, it’s a hearty “yes” just because I’m over the “shoulds” of parenting.
Here’s a peek into some of the things I frequently agree to (even if I probably shouldn’t):
Desserts
Treats for the kids are treats for me too. Who wants to sneak a candy bar into the bathroom when I can just share?
Eating Cookie Dough
Nothing beats that delightful moment of licking the bowl clean. And really, who ever actually gets sick from cookie dough?
Playdates
My kids thrive on social interactions, which in turn makes my life easier. Plus, having their friends over keeps them entertained and gives me a breather.
One More Show
Sometimes, a mom’s gotta do what a mom’s gotta do, right?
Climbing Trees
Isn’t this a rite of passage? It’s all part of their childhood adventures.
Books
I can’t resist the allure of a new book, especially since I’m a bit of a bookworm myself. So when they ask for one, it’s usually a “yes” from me!
Skipping Homework
I apologize to the teachers on this one! But hey, they have plenty of books at home, so they’re still learning, right?
Taking Risks
Sometimes, a few risks are necessary for learning to make good decisions in the future.
Leaving the Toilet Seat Up
Sure, this drives me up the wall, but I choose to overlook it more often than not.
Junk Food at the Store
Grocery shopping with kids is a challenge, so if letting them pick out some junk food makes it easier, so be it.
Doing Things Alone
It’s important for them to experience independence, even if it means riding their bikes solo every now and then.
Skipping Nightly Teeth-Brushing
I know, I know. I’m just being lazy. Can’t a mom catch a break?
Staying Up Late
While they may argue all day, come bedtime, they can be the sweetest little angels. So, yes to those late nights!
Sports Equipment
When your kid is passionate about something—even if it changes every other week—how can you say no?
Eating Dinner Anywhere But the Table
By the end of the week, I’m just too worn out to enforce the table rule, crumbs be damned!
One More Tuck-In
After multiple goodnights, I still give in to that “just one more tuck-in” request almost every time.
Making Messes
I might grumble about the cleanup, but sometimes a little mess buys me some much-needed peace and quiet.
Movie Night
This is practically the only time my kids sit still all day. Popcorn and a movie? Yes, please!
Movies with Bad Language
Let’s face it, they might hear worse at school, so why not enjoy a movie together, even if it has a few swear words?
Marching to Their Own Beat
This isn’t just a “yes,” it’s something I actively promote. I want my kids to embrace their uniqueness!
Parenting is undoubtedly a tough gig, filled with difficult decisions. We often have to play the villain, saying “no” far too many times because let’s be honest—kids aren’t always the best decision-makers. But perhaps adults can also err by saying “no” too frequently. Because really, embracing “yes” can open the door to so much more joy.
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In summary, saying “yes” can lead to more fun and memorable moments in parenting, and sometimes it’s okay to let go of rigid expectations for the sake of joy.