It’s been ages since I’ve had a bed all to myself. I’m not boasting; it’s more a reality check—my nights have turned into a cozy (or chaotic) sleepover with at least two other family members. Yep, kids have a way of invading your personal space.
About three years ago, we transitioned my 5-year-old from his crib to a “big kid” bed. And let’s not forget the epic assembly of a loft bed that nearly gave me a hernia (thanks, IKEA!). For the past year, though, he’s opted to leave his cool new digs and join us each night, turning our bed into a family affair.
As a parent, it’s easy to feel conflicted. On one hand, sharing a bed with an energetic child means there’s barely any room left for actual sleeping. When you have a little one who doesn’t grasp the concept of staying still and prefers to sleep diagonally, it can be a recipe for sleeplessness. On the other hand, every night spent cuddling is a fleeting moment to cherish. Kids grow up so fast, and soon enough, they won’t want to snuggle with you at all.
It might sound humorous, but as your children transition through different phases of life, you may find yourself yearning for the simplicity of their earlier habits—even if those habits come with their own set of challenges. Personally, I’d take the headache of endless “whys” over the stress of figuring out how to pay for college!
Co-sleeping is one of those nostalgic remnants of toddlerhood that’s hard to shake off. Despite the countless studies warning about its potential downsides—like sleep disruption and developmental issues—it can be tough to resist. It’s not just about the late-night invasions; it’s about the warmth and connection that comes with them.
My partner, Sarah, although keen on establishing good sleep habits for our son, genuinely enjoys those cuddly evenings. I mean, who wouldn’t? It’s endearing that our 5-year-old still wants to curl up next to us (let’s be real, he prefers snuggling with Mom). Especially at the end of the school year, when we compare his first and last day photos, it hits her how quickly he’s growing up. Those moments make her want to hold onto co-sleeping just a bit longer.
So, we find ourselves in this tug-of-war between declaring, “We need to break this habit!” and “Let’s soak it all in while we can!” Sometimes our feelings even shift throughout the same night. One minute he’s in our bed, and the next, we’re negotiating to keep him in his own space.
Most nights, our son ends up with us, and when he doesn’t, it’s usually because we’ve resorted to some form of bribery or gentle persuasion. Despite our gripes about him hogging the mattress, we’re generally okay with the arrangement. After all, he won’t be sharing our bed at 12 years old… probably.
And honestly, there’s nothing wrong with that! (Well, maybe there is.)
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In summary, co-sleeping can be both a delightful bonding experience and a source of sleep deprivation. As our children grow, we cherish these moments while grappling with the ever-present tension of parenting choices.