After seven years and two kids, my marriage seems far from the fairy tale I often see on social media. Every day, my feed fills up with declarations of undying love: “You’re my forever love, my cuddle muffin!” “Every day with you is a new adventure!” “Our love grows stronger every day!” All I can think is, wow, didn’t she just mention looking into divorce lawyers last week?
Is it just me, or do other couples hit these bumps too? We can’t be the only ones letting stress derail healthy conversations and sometimes going to bed angry, even if the experts say it’s a no-no. Facebook makes it look like we’re the only ones struggling, while everyone else appears to be living in a romantic comedy.
A friend of mine recently shared a gem: “You know 100% of your own life, but on social media, you only show the best 5%: your kid’s first steps, a vacation in Hawaii, or your graduation.” It’s easy to feel disheartened when you’re comparing your whole life to everyone else’s highlight reel.
So when the #LoveYourPartner challenge started trending, I watched with a mix of intrigue and dread. Look at all those perfectly staged wedding photos! Everyone’s relationship looks pristine while I’m over here arguing with my husband about something completely trivial.
Now, don’t get me wrong—I’m not against all these chain challenges. I participated in the Ice Bucket Challenge and the Motherhood Challenge on Mother’s Day. But this one? I can’t do it the way it’s intended. We have our polished moments, sure, but our relationship often looks different from those cute snapshots.
Here’s what a week of the Love Your Partner Challenge would realistically look like:
Day 1 of the Love Your Partner Challenge
So… we argue. A lot. It could be about finances, parenting styles, or even dirty laundry. But can we just stop talking about it today? I nominate any couple who has had a disagreement this month to join in.
Day 2 of the Love Your Partner Challenge
We’re lost again, and it’s my fault since I can’t navigate Google Maps. It’s a classic scenario: One kid is on the verge of sleep while the other is screaming at full volume. I nominate any couple who has ever just taken a drive to escape the chaos at home.
Day 3 of the Love Your Partner Challenge
Can I get a moment for my wine? Nope! Maybe I can squeeze it between those empty beer cans. Today, I nominate anyone whose partner gives a thumbs-up for every selfie they take.
Day 4 of the Love Your Partner Challenge
It’s 3 a.m., and the baby is crying. You can only pretend to be asleep for so long before it’s time for “Whose Turn Is It?” roulette. I nominate any parent who has wished their partner could magically produce milk for nighttime feedings.
Day 5 of the Love Your Partner Challenge
My husband is on the phone, stuck in traffic and will be home at who-knows-when. Today, I nominate everyone who understands the phrase “single-married parent.”
Day 6 of the Love Your Partner Challenge
The baby is about to tumble down the stairs, and I’m boiling pasta. We are just ships passing in the night! I nominate any couple who has tried to high-five each other while juggling parenthood.
Day 7 of the Love Your Partner Challenge
Finally, the kids are in bed, and it’s time for… rest. Yes, that’s right—rest is the new sexy. I nominate any couple who has taken “Netflix and Chill” to mean just catching up on sleep.
While the #LoveYourPartner challenge aims to celebrate love and promote marriage, which is fantastic, I believe it’s important to acknowledge the reality: Marriage is hard work. It’s not just a one-time joyous occasion but a daily commitment. And if you want to learn more about the realities of home insemination, check out this informative article.
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In summary, the #LoveYourPartner challenge is a fun way to highlight the good, but let’s not forget the messy, real moments that come with it too. Love is not just about the beautiful moments; it’s about tackling life together, however imperfect that may be.