Hey Moms: You’re Crushing It More Than You Realize

This summer, after dedicating a decade to being a stay-at-home mom, I finally took the plunge and started working part-time from home. It’s been a game changer. I’m keeping regular hours, knocking out tasks, and it feels invigorating. Honestly, I’m surprised at how great it feels to focus on something beyond my kiddos for a few hours each day, get things done, and even earn some cash.

But here’s the kicker: I’m constantly plagued by guilt. Am I a good mom? Am I spending enough quality time with my kids? Will summer fly by without us having enough fun? Do my kids feel like I’m ditching them? What on earth is wrong with me? Why do I obsess over whether I’m a terrible mom?

Let’s take a peek into my relentless inner monologue:

“Enough already! The kids are fine, you’re fine, and you’re spending half the day with them! Remember, you felt guilty as a full-time SAHM too. You worried you weren’t using your graduate degree or contributing enough to the family finances. But maybe you were meant to set that aside for a bit and just be Mom. Maybe your kids do need you around more. Maybe…”

I could go on forever. This self-critique loop is never-ending. And I know I’m not alone in this struggle.

So why do we moms put so much pressure on ourselves?

We literally grew tiny humans, carried them, and navigated the chaos of parenting. Even if we didn’t bear them ourselves, we’re still hustling every single day for our kids, pouring our hearts into every meal, every tantrum, and every scraped knee.

We’re the ones who remember every last meal, how much protein was in it, and when the next snack attack will strike. We know who pooped when and often visualize those bowel movements—seriously, it’s a mom superpower. We can sense when our kids are feeling down, even if they’re miles away, and we can predict when the school nurse will call us with a “fun” surprise.

Even when we’re not physically present, our minds are tethered to our kids, constantly worrying if they’re happy and safe. Yet, we often find ourselves questioning our abilities, convinced we’re not measuring up.

Enough is enough!

Let’s give ourselves a break, shall we? We deserve a massive round of applause and a big hug for being present and giving it our all.

Where does all this negativity come from? Is it the endless comparisons fueled by social media? Or is it a deep-seated belief that we’ve absorbed since childhood—that we’re never good enough, nurturing enough, or successful enough? I’m over it.

Here’s the truth:

Moms, you’re doing fantastic. You’re accomplishing more than you give yourself credit for. Just the fact that you’re questioning your parenting skills proves you care. Your kids feel your love and effort, whether you’re at home working or taking a break.

You need to embrace the fact that you’re an incredible mom. Don’t let those nagging thoughts convince you otherwise. And don’t let anyone—online or in real life—make you feel like you’re failing. It’s time to say, “No, thank you, I don’t need that negativity,” and move on.

Practice some positive self-talk, as cheesy as it may sound. Do it for yourself and your kids. They need to see a confident mom who knows her worth, both as a mother and a woman.

I get it; it’s not always easy. There will be moments when self-doubt creeps in, and we question if we can handle it all. But we always bounce back because our love for our kids drives us. That love fuels our success, even when it feels like we’re stumbling.

So, let’s move forward, Moms.

I promise to tell the annoying voices in my head to pipe down if you do too. Deal?

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Summary:

Moms often underestimate their abilities and feel guilty about their parenting choices. This article encourages mothers to recognize their efforts and embrace their strengths, while also challenging the negative self-talk that can arise from societal pressures and comparisons. It’s important for moms to practice self-love and positive affirmations for their well-being and for the benefit of their children.