Reflecting on the Wisdom Gained From My Parenting Adventure

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Parenting isn’t a science; it’s more like a wild adventure where we often feel like we’re flying blind. This week, our firstborn officially granted us the title of “in-laws” after tying the knot with the lovely girl next door.

Throughout this parenting journey, we’ve been blessed with advice and inspiring role models, but mostly, we’ve had to find our own way—like navigating through a foggy maze. The only formal check-in we received was when we left the hospital with our newborn, and a nurse double-checked our infant car seat installation. A few years later, when our little one claimed he spent the weekend in a cabinet, it turned out he meant a cabin—thanks for clarifying, daycare!

Much of our learning involved trial and error. In an era before Google and WebMD, I leaned on close friends who were also new moms. We tackled parenting questions together, which may have been a blessing in disguise. We learned that baby sleep positions could change overnight: one moment it was tummy sleeping, the next it was back sleeping. Baby walkers were all the rage until they weren’t. And suddenly, we were left wondering if we were part of some grand parenting experiment.

My son was a late talker and walker, and while I lost sleep worrying about it at the time, he eventually mastered all those skills. Now, I lose sleep over his late-night teenage adventures instead—those are the real sleepless nights.

He insisted on walking to kindergarten, even though it was two miles away. So, we did it, with his toddler brother in a stroller. It was a disaster, and I ended up carrying him the last leg, telling him to cling to me like a baby monkey. Lesson learned: “monkey-tight” is not a practical way to travel.

After baby number three arrived, we moved into a larger home. Naturally, we claimed the biggest bedroom, putting the boys in the medium one and their baby sister in the smallest. But they quickly drafted a list of reasons they deserved the larger room. Our oldest, at age 8, made a compelling case, and soon enough, the boys were enjoying their spacious digs.

Fast forward a few years, and that same son, now 11, compiled a list of all the adults shorter than him who could sit in the front seat. Clever arguments!

Through it all, we navigated some tough questions, often peppered with tears. When his classmate unexpectedly passed away, he asked how God could allow such pain. I confessed that I didn’t have the answers, but it would be the first thing I’d ask during my coffee chats with the Almighty. A year later, when we had to share my cancer diagnosis, he asked if I was going to die. I answered truthfully: yes, but not from this. Hard lessons indeed.

Life continued to throw challenges our way: never drive over a mountain of ball-bearings, baseball uniforms are acceptable for award ceremonies, and laughter with grandparents is priceless. Time spent at the beach or ballpark is never wasted, and brothers make the best wingmen.

As he found his soulmate just down the street, they embarked on evening strolls, late-night chats in treehouses, and shared lists of must-watch movies. Their journey together has been a joy to witness, and as my son’s brother wisely noted upon their engagement, “Zero people are surprised, and everyone is delighted.”

We may have started this journey without a roadmap, but we set our own navigational beacons along the way. Sometimes you hold on tight, and sometimes you must gently let go.

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Summary:

Parenting is a journey filled with learning experiences and unexpected challenges. From navigating early childhood milestones to supporting teenagers, the adventure is unique for every family. As we reflect on our parenting journey, we recognize the importance of adaptability, communication, and love. With each lesson learned, we pave the way for future generations.