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Adele’s Honest Take on the Struggles of Motherhood: It’s Okay to Admit We ‘F**king Hate This’ Sometimes
In her recent Vogue interview, Adele shines a light on the realities of motherhood, postpartum depression, and the complex feelings that come with being a working mom. This month’s cover story is a must-read for new mothers, as it tackles the not-so-glamorous aspects of parenting. When someone as influential as Adele speaks about these struggles, it can make other moms feel less isolated in their experiences.
“I told a friend one day, ‘I fuckin’ hate this,’ and she just burst into tears and said, ‘I fuckin’ hate this too.’ And that was it. It was such a relief,” Adele shared. “My understanding of postpartum — or post-natal, as we call it in England — is that you may not want to be with your child, or worry you might hurt them. But I was obsessed with my little one. I felt inadequate, like I’d made the worst decision of my life. It can manifest in so many ways.”
I remember feeling crushed after my first child was born. After five long years of trying to conceive, when I finally held my baby, I didn’t experience that expected rush of love. Instead, I felt empty. I thought, “Why don’t I feel this ecstatic joy?” The truth was, I despised early motherhood. The sleepless nights, the uncertainty of whether I was doing anything right, and the constant remarks from others saying, “Isn’t it wonderful?” just made me feel worse. I wish I had someone like Adele around to say, “I fucking hate this” — it might have brought me back to earth.
Adele gets real about the pressures of motherhood: “All my friends and I felt pushed into the idea of having kids, because that’s what adults do. I adore my son, but there are days when I long for the freedom to do whatever I please.” How often do we hear mothers confess such feelings? It’s like a taboo topic, but so many of us can relate. Wanting your pre-baby life back doesn’t diminish your love for your kids.
She even took the brave step of carving out some “me time,” saying, “I decided to give myself an afternoon each week to just do whatever the hell I wanted.” When a friend questioned her, she admitted, “I do feel guilty, but not as guilty as I would if I didn’t do it.” Many of her friends shared the same sentiments but hesitated to voice them, fearing judgment. It’s crucial to recognize that taking time for yourself can actually make you a better parent.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed, remember that you’re not alone. You can check out helpful resources, and don’t hesitate to reach out for support. For more insights on fertility and home insemination, visit this post. And if you’re looking for expert advice on improving your chances of conception, Make a Mom has great options available. For those curious about IVF, Parents offers an excellent overview of the process.
In summary, Adele’s candidness about the struggles of motherhood resonates with many. It’s a reminder that it’s perfectly okay to feel overwhelmed and to admit that parenting can be tough. Taking time for yourself is not just acceptable; it’s necessary for your well-being.