The festive season is often heralded as the most delightful time of the year! After all, that’s what the songs and commercials tell us, right? We’re greeted with images of charming homes adorned with twinkling lights, families clad in cozy pajamas enjoying hot cocoa under beautifully decorated trees, and joyous children rushing outside to discover gleaming new cars in the driveway. So much bliss! And let’s not forget the social media streams overflowing with pictures of smiling families at holiday gatherings and winter getaways!
Yet, I find it hard to tap into that same joy. The excitement and anticipation that my kids feel seem worlds away from my own experience. The thrill of decorating, exchanging gifts, and attending family celebrations just doesn’t resonate with me like it used to.
This isn’t because I’m a Scrooge or indifferent to the season; rather, it’s the overwhelming wave of empathy and sadness I feel for those who face struggles during this time.
Reflecting on my childhood, I remember Christmases filled with wonder and joy, complete with an array of toys beneath the tree. But one day, I noticed my mother quietly weeping while listening to a Christmas carol. That moment opened my eyes to a painful truth: for many, the holiday season is not a time of joy, but a reminder of their hardships.
When I asked her about her tears, she shared something that shifted my perspective forever. “For some people, this season is the hardest time of year. They may be grieving loved ones or struggling to provide for their families. They might not be able to afford gifts or even a warm meal. The absence of someone dear can make this time unbearable. And for many, the pressure to be joyful during such painful moments can be overwhelming.”
From that day forward, my view of Christmas changed. The heavy empathy I carry for those enduring grief and hardship often makes it challenging to feel the joy that the season is meant to bring. For those of us who are sensitive to the emotions around us, the pain experienced by others can sometimes overshadow our own holiday cheer.
As a parent, I realize I should create a memorable and joyous experience for my children. Their school and church activities are meant to foster joyful memories, not feel like burdens. Yet, it often feels more important to me to alleviate the suffering of friends and neighbors during this time.
The commercialization of Christmas and societal expectations for a perfect holiday can intensify the feelings of inadequacy that those in need already experience. Where many see aisles brimming with festive goodies, I see families relying on food banks. While some share cheerful family photos, I see families facing the heart-wrenching absence of loved ones. I recognize single parents meticulously counting coins, trying to make Christmas morning a reality.
I can give endlessly, yet it never feels sufficient to erase the pain and loss that exist, especially during the holidays. For those of us who feel deeply, the anguish of others can sometimes rob us of our own joy.
However, I’ve come to understand that I can choose to make a difference. I can also seek out hope and light amidst the darkness. And during Christmas, there’s a beautiful reminder of this. On December 25, nearly 6,500 babies are born, bringing joy to new moms and dads who will unwrap the greatest gift of all. These little ones symbolize the hope of new beginnings, reminding us that even amid struggle, life continues and new joys will emerge.
One year, I experienced this gift myself when my daughter was born on New Year’s Eve, reminding me that the season can hold joy if we let it.
This holiday season, let’s not forget to spread kindness and support those who are struggling, while also embracing the hope and love that Christmas can bring. You can find more about supporting those in need on resources like The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists for pregnancy-related information, or explore options like Home Insemination Kit and Make A Mom for those looking to start their families.
Summary
The holiday season can be difficult for many, as feelings of empathy and sadness often overshadow joy. It’s essential to recognize the struggles of others while also seeking hope and light during this time. By spreading kindness and understanding, we can create a more compassionate atmosphere that embraces the true spirit of Christmas.