What I Wish the Mother of My Stepchildren Knew

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Dear Mom,

I can only imagine what your experience has been like. My kids have grown up without a stepmom, while your children are still young and navigating life with me as their stepmother. We’ve shared spaces but never really connected, and I wonder how you perceive me. Do you question my parenting skills? Are your kids safe in my care? It must be tough to send them off to our home during our weekends and holidays.

Here’s what I want you to know:

I genuinely adore your kids. They are truly amazing, and you’ve done a fantastic job raising them. Sure, they can be a bit much at times—who hasn’t dealt with that? I care for them just like they were my own. I whip up their favorite meals and cater to their sometimes picky preferences. I help them rinse out their hair conditioner and provide bath toys for their splashy fun. At bedtime, I tuck them in and give them sweet forehead kisses. I hold their little hands as we cross streets, kiss their boo-boos, and comfort them when they need it. I plan fun activities for our time together and hang on to their every word. I cheer them on, play football with your son, and even polish your daughter’s nails.

What I don’t do? I don’t discipline them—your husband handles that, as it’s his role. I never ignore them or treat them unkindly. I don’t belittle or embarrass them, nor do I undermine your authority. I’ve made it a priority to respect the boundaries you’ve set.

Your kids express their affection for me openly, and it warms my heart. They often mention you, too. When we’re at the flea market, your youngest identifies trinkets she thinks you’d love. They might savor my chicken fried steak but will say it pales in comparison to yours. At the park, your son will spot someone wearing a coat just like yours and bring it up. They tell me they love and miss you often. Sometimes, during longer visits, they even get homesick for you.

I understand that the relationship between you and their dad isn’t always smooth, but remember that you once loved him. You appreciated the qualities in him that I still see. You recognized his worth enough to have children together, and might I add, you two make beautiful kids! Post-divorce, it’s easy to focus on the negatives and forget the positives. He is a fantastic, loving father whose excitement is palpable when the kids arrive. He shares stories about them with me daily and showers them with love. He reassures them that it’s perfectly fine to love me, just like they love you and their stepdad. How fortunate these kids are to have four caring parents when some children have none.

So please, rest easy while they’re with me. I assure you I will keep them safe. I promise to treat them with the kindness I would want for my own children. My love for them may not match a mother’s, but as a stepmother, my love is significant and genuine.

Sincerely,
Stepmom

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Summary: The letter emphasizes the love and care the stepmother has for her stepchildren while reassuring their biological mother of her commitment to their well-being. It highlights the importance of respect between co-parents and acknowledges the complex emotions involved in blended families.