At 30, I’ve Finally Figured Myself Out

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A few months back, I spent the night at a friend’s place, and let me tell you, it was nothing like those carefree sleepovers I had a decade ago. By 9 p.m., I was tucked into bed, flanked by my little ones. I wanted nothing more than to drift off, but the mascara on my lashes had other plans, keeping me wide awake. The bed was plush and inviting, yet I found myself yearning for my own pillow. I used to be indifferent about my pillow preferences, but there I was, vowing never to leave home without my cherished pillow again.

I chuckled at myself, thinking, “So this is what turning 30 feels like.” It’s not about being boring; it’s about knowing exactly what I want—even if it’s just a pillow that suits me and a little face wash before bed.

Here are 10 reasons why being in my 30s is pretty awesome:

1. Body Confidence
   I used to fret about my petite chest, but now I feel like a graceful ballerina. I don’t question my body anymore; I celebrate it.
2. Cooking and Cleaning Pro
   It’s been over a decade since I devoured a junior bacon cheeseburger, and I’ve learned to sweep with gusto—at least three times a day! Believe it or not, I even enjoy washing dishes now (strange, right?).
3. Self-Acceptance
   I’ve ditched the need to shave every inch of my body to feel feminine. Sure, I keep an eye on the pesky mole hairs, but I’m not as concerned about the little stubble anymore. If it gets long enough to braid, so be it! (Just kidding—I haven’t completely abandoned social norms.)
4. Being My Own Best Friend
   In my youth, I was constantly worried about how others perceived me. Now, I’ve learned to care less about their opinions. I don’t need everyone to like or understand me, and that’s liberating. I provide myself with the approval I need, and when insecurities pop up, I recognize them for what they are instead of letting them consume me.
5. Clear Opinions
   Back in the day, I’d try to like things just because my friends did. Bands like Bush and Stone Temple Pilots? I thought I should enjoy them too. Now, I trust my own feelings and opinions. If I don’t vibe with Bush’s music, that’s perfectly fine!
6. Honesty Reigns
   I don’t pretend to be indifferent about where we eat when I’m craving pho, nor do I use excuses for missing a gathering. If I mess up, I simply say, “Sorry.” Speaking my truth—big or small—has deepened my connections and made me feel more authentic.
7. Friendship Quality Over Quantity
   I might not have a huge circle, but my friends are priceless. They’ve withstood the test of time and distance, and I cherish the effort we put into maintaining those bonds.
8. Letting Loose on the Dance Floor
   At a friend’s wedding last May, I kicked off my shoes and danced like nobody was watching. I used to dread dancing, but now I don’t care if I look silly—just moving is what matters.
9. Embracing My Talents
   In college, I studied education out of practicality, but now I pursue my passions. I’ve come to recognize my writing as a gift, and I’m courageous enough to share my thoughts with the world.
10. Less Worry, More Wisdom
    While I wouldn’t wish for tough times, I understand they bring valuable lessons. I’ve learned from experience that “this too shall pass.” When my partner and I hit a rough patch, I know we’ll bounce back. When confusion sets in, clarity is sure to follow.

At 30, I’m not just slapping on anti-wrinkle cream; I’m also questioning its necessity. I’ve realized that while external appearances may change, my inner self is what truly matters. This newfound awareness has filled me with confidence and a sense of empowerment.

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Summary

Turning 30 comes with newfound confidence, self-acceptance, and clarity. With a focus on personal growth, I embrace my body, trust my opinions, and value authentic relationships. I have learned to dance without fear, pursue my passions, and worry less about external pressures.