I’m not one of those women who can proclaim that my body’s journey through motherhood outweighs my frustration with my sagging breasts, stretched belly, and the jowls that greet me in the mirror. Society teaches us that “good moms” should wear their scars and less-than-ideal body parts as badges of honor, celebrating the sacrifices of motherhood. And while that’s great for some, it doesn’t resonate with me. I’m ready for cosmetic surgery, and honestly, I’ve been ready for quite some time.
But let’s clarify: I want more than just uplifted breasts. I’m envisioning a complete body transformation — a so-called “mommy makeover” that many refer to when discussing post-baby body rejuvenation. I’m a strong-willed, opinionated feminist, and before kids, I was in tune with my sexuality, which my partner and I both cherished.
These days, my self-confidence has taken a hit and I feel far from sexy. I’m not insecure; I just want my breasts to return to their former glory. Yet, expressing this desire seems to label me a “bad feminist,” as Madonna recently pointed out.
The notion that women should reject makeup, slim figures, or sexy lingerie to feel empowered feels misguided to me. I understand the perils of objectifying women, but I’m not doing that to myself. Pointing fingers at celebrities like Lena with her toned abs or Mia with her enviable curves and blaming them for unrealistic beauty standards makes my eyes roll so hard I might just see my brain.
Why not appreciate the myriad ways femininity can be celebrated? Some women flaunt their C-section scars, others rock tattoos as symbols of beauty. Personally, I admire a strong physique. I’m not seeking validation from the male gaze; I’m aspiring to my own version of sexy.
Wanting to shed that post-baby weight and get fit like Jamie (who radiates health, by the way) is fantastic because she embodies a vibrant lifestyle. If you’re all about that detox vegan life for an energy boost? Go for it! As for me? I’m aiming for a toned figure and perky breasts, and that journey will likely involve a commitment to fitness, healthy eating, and perhaps a surgical procedure or two.
Being a modern feminist means having the autonomy to make choices about our bodies. Yet, many still cling to outdated beliefs that a woman cannot be a feminist if she desires things deemed oppressive, like being a stay-at-home mom or — heaven forbid — opting for cosmetic enhancements. I call BS. If a woman chooses to invest in herself, whether it’s for a killer physique or a fabulous pair of breasts, she stands just as tall in the feminist arena as any icon from history. It’s all about the freedom to choose.
The decisions I make daily illustrate to my children what feminism looks like. I opted to stay home with them when they were young. Then I returned to work last year to pursue my passion for writing, showing my kids it’s never too late to follow your dreams.
When I got a tattoo at 37, my kids witnessed me embracing my body and expressing my individuality. If I decide to undergo a tummy tuck, it won’t signal insecurity; rather, it will reinforce my ownership of my body and my right to define my own aesthetic.
Women have fought hard for the right to be heard and respected as individuals. Our choices should be respected, whether others deem them superficial or extravagant. At the end of the day, my future perky breasts will be a testament to my autonomy, and I’ll continue to do what brings me joy.
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Summary:
In this article, Jenna Thompson expresses her desire for cosmetic surgery post-childbirth, challenging the notion that wanting to alter one’s body equates to undermining feminism. She advocates for the freedom of choice regarding body image, reinforcing that modern feminism encompasses a woman’s right to embrace her individuality, whether through surgical enhancements or other personal decisions.