To the Man Who Thought He Could Fix Me with a Big… You Know What

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It’s been a challenge to articulate the whirlwind of emotions I experienced after stumbling upon a comment from a man who clearly missed the memo on respect. His words, mere fragments hidden beneath a piece I wrote about mental health, struck a chord deep within me. They weren’t just rude or thoughtless; they were crude and laden with aggression.

His assertion was simple: “What she needs is a strong man with a huge… you know. That’ll fix her.” Let’s be clear: the notion that anatomy can resolve mental health issues is not only absurd, it’s downright harmful. Newsflash: a sizable appendage does not cure depression, and intimacy doesn’t mend mental health struggles.

Before we dive deeper, allow me to provide some context about myself and the article that drew such a response. Maybe you’re wondering if I provoked this vitriol. Did I misstep? Was I too serious? Did I need a good roll in the hay? Spoiler alert: No, no, and no. I did nothing to warrant such disrespect. No woman should ever be subjected to this kind of language. It’s not just offensive; it’s indicative of a larger issue—sexism at its worst.

I hear some of you thinking, “Oh, come on, it was just a joke!” But if that’s your mindset, let me enlighten you: every time you dismiss this kind of language, you’re part of the problem. Every snicker and eye roll only reinforces harmful stereotypes and perpetuates a culture of sexism and sexual aggression.

Words like “f*ck you” and “suck my d*ck” contribute to a societal acceptance of sexual violence, creating a toxic environment that we should all strive to dismantle. I’m tired of sitting quietly while this happens, so here I am, addressing you, Mr. Anonymous Commenter, and all men who think like you.

I don’t know you personally, but I recognize your type. I’ve encountered men who think it’s acceptable to leer and objectify women, men who’ve made crude comments since I hit puberty. You may not be the same guy who harassed me at 14, but you share the same mindset.

Usually, I wouldn’t bother responding to comments like yours because, let’s face it, you probably won’t listen. But today is different. I speak not just for myself but for countless women who’ve faced intimidation and degradation at the hands of men like you. Your words can be terrifying, and whether you realize it or not, they perpetuate a culture of fear.

You might dismiss this as locker room banter, but let’s be frank: real men don’t speak this way. So, if you’re still with me, take a moment to think before you type. Reflect on your words and their impact—not just for me, but for all the women in your life. Hatred is never attractive.

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In summary, it’s crucial to confront and challenge the language that diminishes and objectifies. Let’s foster a world where respect reigns, and words uplift rather than degrade.