Let’s set the record straight once and for all: it really doesn’t matter how your little one arrived in this world. As someone who has been navigating the wild world of motherhood for nearly two decades, I can tell you that the things I used to stress over? Total nonsense! One of those worries was how my babies were born.
My First Experience
My first child, a son, came into this world 19 years ago through an emergency C-section. I felt like I’d been blindsided; it was a gut-wrenching experience that went against every instinct I had. Forget the fact that the surgery saved both our lives; all I felt was guilt and failure. I mean, how could I not manage to have a baby the “natural” way, like every other mom I saw in movies or read about? I was stuck questioning my worth as a mom before I even got the chance to figure out how to change a diaper.
Parenting Chaos
After my second son’s failed VBAC attempt, I was knee-deep in parenting chaos with two toddlers just 18 months apart. That didn’t mean the guilt disappeared, though. When I had to tell people my kids were both born via C-section, I felt like I was confessing to some sort of crime. My responses were all about my limitations: “I couldn’t…” “My body didn’t…”—it was all on me.
The Realization
But, here’s the kicker: as time passed, I realized that babies born under a cascade of rose petals and soothing jazz still throw tantrums, refuse to eat their veggies, and struggle with spelling tests just like my “C-section kids.” Seriously, how you enter this world has no bearing on who they become.
A New Perspective
Fast forward to the birth of my last son, who was also delivered via a scheduled C-section. This time, I marched into that hospital like I was on the red carpet. No guilt, no shame—just a sense of gratitude for modern medicine and the amazing team of doctors and nurses who were there to help. As I sat in that operating room, I wasn’t thinking about failure; I was simply thankful. Thankful for the life-saving care I received and eager to meet my baby.
For Adoptive Mamas
And for all you adoptive mamas out there, I bet you couldn’t care less how your child came into this world. The truth is, what matters is the love and care you give, not the method of delivery.
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Conclusion
In short, how your baby was born doesn’t define you as a parent. What truly matters is the love and support you provide as they grow.