What I’ve Discovered About My Vagina in My 30s

I was just over 12 when I got my first period. Of course, it happened during band practice (I was playing the flute) and, naturally, I was rocking a pair of white pants. Later that day, my mom whisked me into the bathroom with a box of tampons and told me to “read the instructions.” There was no heartfelt talk about womanhood or sex education. No one popped out of my closet singing the empowering anthem of “Ladies First.” It was a pretty mundane start, but that day marked the beginning of my complicated relationship with my vagina.

Now that I’m comfortably in my 30s, I realize that most of my body insecurities are behind me, and I can confidently say that my vagina is my best friend. Here are some key insights I’ve gained:

Birth Control Doesn’t Have to Be a Nightmare.

Not every contraceptive method suits every woman. Whether it’s due to side effects or personal preference, I discovered that natural birth control methods, like the rhythm technique, work best for me. Sure, it requires some effort, and yes, I had to ditch intimacy for a few months while I meticulously tracked my menstrual cycle (hello, personal vagina journal!). But the peace of mind that comes from understanding my body far outweighs these minor inconveniences. Plus, I love that my cycle is now devoid of chemically-induced chaos.

Childbirth is Not a Curse.

About three months into my pregnancy, I asked my friend, “What’s natural childbirth really like?” She casually waved her hand and said, “It’s not that bad. You’ll manage.” Those words echoed in my mind throughout the ensuing months and hours of labor. While childbirth shouldn’t be taken lightly, the Hollywood dramatization of screaming women in emergency rooms is often overblown. Women are, after all, designed for this incredible process. Your birth experience is uniquely yours, and let’s not forget that our bodies are simply magical.

Your Vagina Loves Good Food.

A decade ago, I ditched meat and switched to a mostly plant-based diet, and the perks have been astonishing: more energy, clearer skin, and faster-growing hair and nails. But the most delightful surprise? A happy vagina! Regardless of your diet — whether it’s all meat or just salad — certain foods can keep your vagina thriving. Fruits like pineapple, cranberries, and even garlic can enhance your overall reproductive health. Struggling with bacterial vaginosis? Coconut oil is a natural antibacterial that can help maintain that delicate balance. So don’t forget to treat your lady parts well while grocery shopping!

Sex is Life-Saving.

Ever hear the saying that love and sex go hand in hand? Well, I finally called nonsense on that belief, and my life improved drastically. This was particularly enlightening during my single days. While my emotional needs were being met by my favorite companion (myself), I was neglecting my sexual ones. Research shows that a healthy sex life can boost mood and decrease stress levels. Not to mention, it’s a great workout! If more people were enjoying themselves in the bedroom, perhaps there would be less pain in the world. So whether you’re in a relationship or single, remember: prioritize your pleasure.

Sex Gets Better with Age.

Contrary to what I once thought, sex evolves interestingly in your 30s. According to my friend, the fun doesn’t stop there; sex in your 40s and 50s can be even better. While I had more free time in my 20s, my confidence and body image are way healthier now. Plus, I’m no longer bogged down by societal expectations. Studies even suggest that women aged 27 to 45 tend to have more sex than those in their late teens and early twenties. It’s amusing to think that the once insatiable college guys might be overshadowed by the increasingly passionate women in their lives a decade later.

The most crucial lesson I’ve learned about my vagina in my 30s is that, regardless of politics, it’s mine. Women have the power to reclaim our bodies. Whether you were born with one, chose to have one, or are planning to get one, taking charge of your well-being starts now. It’s never too early to explore your options, do your research, and seek second opinions. Remember, the source of our strength lies right between our legs, reminding us of our resilience since that fateful day in junior high.

All hail the vagina, ruler of our lives!

For more insights on your reproductive health, check out this excellent resource on treating infertility. And if you’re interested in the journey of home insemination, you can visit this blog post to learn more about it.

Summary:

In my 30s, I’ve discovered the complexities of my vagina, from understanding birth control to embracing the joys of sexuality. I’ve learned that food choices matter, childbirth is a natural miracle, and a fulfilling sex life can significantly enhance overall well-being. Ultimately, I’ve reclaimed my body and am empowered to explore all aspects of my femininity.