When I was around 7 or 8, I would perch at my mom’s desk and flip on the small lamp that resided there. It was your standard desk lamp, featuring a strong light bulb cloaked in a metal shade. The moment it turned on, the bulb and shade became scorching hot. I’d sit there ripping up bits of paper, holding a torn corner against the metal until it started to smoke. There was something oddly satisfying about those singed edges.
One day, a tiny ember flickered on the burnt side of my paper. Totally unaccustomed to flames and thinking it would ignite into a full-blown fire, I panicked, hurled the paper, and ran off screaming “fire!” My family was completely startled, and the ember extinguished before it could cause any real trouble. I received a stern lecture on fire safety that left me too terrified to ever play with that lamp again.
But was fear really the best way to teach me about fire? Probably not. Even as an adult, I remain a bit skittish around flames. Had that ember been more serious, it would have been far more beneficial if I had known how to manage the situation instead of throwing it next to a pile of other papers.
So, when I came across an article in the New York Times about a unique initiative in Berlin aimed at teaching kids about fire safety by allowing them to play with fire, I was intrigued. Artist Marco Lin teaches workshops for young children to engage with fire safely under adult supervision. His mission? To demystify fire and prevent the accidents that often happen when kids experiment in secret. He believes that children should learn not just how to create a fire, but how to react responsibly when faced with one.
In many places, including the U.S., kids typically don’t get fire-building lessons until they’re much older, if ever. Instead, they’re often just told to steer clear of flames altogether. I remember a field trip to the local firehouse where the focus was on what to do if you encounter a fire, but nothing on how to handle it properly. This is likely because the goal is to keep kids away from anything dangerous. But let’s face it: kids are curious and often learn best through experience.
So, what’s the right approach? Neither method has overwhelming evidence supporting it. Personally, I lean towards the idea of reducing the allure of the forbidden fruit by allowing kids to learn in a controlled environment. Don’t misinterpret me; I’m not suggesting we fill our toy drawers with lighters and fire starters. But there’s something to be said for replacing the mystique of fire with knowledge and respect, removing its taboo nature that sometimes attracts children to danger.
My own children are quite young—4 and 2 years old. While I love the idea of instilling some fire awareness in them, they’re not quite ready for lessons on flame handling. My oldest already exhibits my tendency to freak out, so handing him a lit match would probably result in a dramatic scene rather than a teachable moment. However, I do plan to take the opportunity to explain fire safety basics the next time I light a candle. We’ll work our way up to the more exciting stuff later.
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In summary, letting children engage with fire in a supervised environment could help demystify it and promote safety. Balancing curiosity with knowledge might just be the key to preventing dangerous situations down the line.