A Message for Those Missing Their Mothers on Mother’s Day

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Mother’s Day is a time when joy and sorrow can walk hand-in-hand, especially for those of us who find ourselves navigating this holiday without our beloved mothers. This year, as I reflect on my own journey, I recall standing at a funeral, drenched in the summer rain—an echo of a similar scene from years past. Back then, I was surrounded by family, clinging to my mother and grandmother as we said goodbye to my grandfather. Now, it’s my grandmother who has left this world, and I stand with only my mother, our grip tightening as we promise to support each other through the days ahead.

As Mother’s Day approaches, I find myself thinking of all the mothers who will feel that familiar ache—the bittersweet longing for the love that was once theirs. I want to reach out to you, whether you are a new mom or a seasoned one, to remind you that it’s okay to feel a whirlwind of emotions today.

To the mothers of young children:

You’ll undoubtedly stumble upon photos on your phone or social media that pull at your heartstrings. You’ll wake up to burnt pancakes served with wide smiles and sticky hands. The handmade cards and awkwardly wrapped gifts will fill your heart with warmth, even as the thought of your own mother tugs at you. I know you’ll cherish every moment, from the sticky hugs to the sweet scents of childhood. Yet, I also know that in the midst of all this joy, your heart may ache for the mother who is no longer here. It’s perfectly natural to want to shed a tear or two while you navigate this day. Remember, it’s okay to let those feelings flow—sometimes, a good cry is all we need.

And just as the day began with laughter and love, it will end the same way—with bedtime snuggles and whispers of “I love you.” May those moments also bring you comfort and healing.

To the mothers who’ve lost their mothers:

This day may find you rummaging through old albums and dusty boxes, clutching memories that remind you of a life you wish you could revisit. You might hesitate to call your children, letting them celebrate the day while you hold space for your own sorrow. And when the phone rings, you’ll put on a brave face, celebrating their joy from afar while feeling the weight of silence once the call ends. It’s a dance of emotions—being a mother, a grandmother, and still a child longing for the woman who once held your hand.

Embrace that complexity. It’s okay to feel like a kid who misses her mom, while also being the strong matriarch for your family. As the day winds down, take a moment to reflect on the many Mother’s Days gone by and the ones yet to come.

To all mothers walking the tightrope between joy and grief today:

You are not alone. It’s perfectly acceptable to feel the full spectrum of emotions on Mother’s Day. You can cry like a child while holding the hands of your own children, young or old. This day is a tapestry of love and remembrance. For those seeking guidance on navigating this journey of motherhood, you might find insights on in vitro fertilization and home insemination helpful, as it connects to the broader experience of motherhood.

Remember, it’s a day of honor—a blend of celebration and remembrance.