Last week, I heard a statement that struck me to my core: “You’re just like your mother.” It’s incredible how a few words can reverberate in your mind and shake your entire perspective.
I grew up in a world shaped by my single mother, who faced numerous challenges. Our life was far from conventional; we moved frequently and often found ourselves in tough situations. Though my grandparents, aunts, and uncles were there to lend a hand, the saying “it takes a village” couldn’t have been more true for us.
Yes, we depended on government support and lived with very little for much of my childhood. I can vividly recall the embarrassment of using food stamps at the store, feeling like the outsider among kids from “normal” families. I witnessed my mother’s struggles firsthand—her battles with poverty and the emotional scars from her experiences.
I remember the day, 16 years ago, when I held her in a hospital room, grappling with the reality of losing her partner to suicide. There were countless moments when I wished for a different life—one where our daily existence didn’t feel like a constant struggle, where I could erase the haunting memories that shaped my youth.
But as I grew older, I began to appreciate my past. Those hardships instilled in me a sense of gratitude. It was our poverty that taught me to value every little thing. The pain we endured fostered my empathy and strengthened my faith. It pushed me to dream big and work hard; I realized I had to earn every penny I made.
I credit my mother for the resilience and work ethic I possess today. She has shaped who I am, how I parent, and who I aspire to be. Regardless of our relationship, the bond with my mother remains unbreakable; she will always occupy a special place in my heart.
So, when someone says, “You’re just like your mother,” I stand firm in my belief that she is not pathetic. She is a survivor, a fighter who has always had my best interests at heart. It’s essential to honor our mothers, these incredible women who do their best with what they have. They may not be perfect, but they are certainly not pathetic.
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In summary, our past shapes us, but it doesn’t define us. Embrace your journey and honor the strength of those who raised you.