It’s no secret that millennials are charting a different course than previous generations. A recent report from the U.S. Census Bureau highlights that many millennials are prioritizing education and careers over traditional milestones like marriage and children. For the purposes of this study, millennials are defined as individuals aged 18 to 34. A significant number of these young adults are graduating with substantial student loan debt, which often hampers their ability to secure jobs that cover both their loan payments and living expenses. Under such challenging circumstances, it’s understandable that marriage and starting a family may take a backseat, even if they’re part of a broader life plan.
According to a Time article discussing the report, which examines young adults over the past four decades (from 1975 to around 2016), 55% of young adults today view marriage and children as low priorities. This marks a dramatic shift from 1975, when 80% were married by 30. The report notes, “Today’s young adults differ from previous generations in almost every aspect: their education levels, work experiences, family planning, and even the living arrangements during their upbringing.”
Growing up, my parents emphasized the importance of education. Unlike many older family members who didn’t complete college, I was determined to succeed. I graduated high school at the top of my class and earned a college degree with a respectable GPA. However, entering the job market in 2008, just as the recession hit, made achieving financial stability incredibly challenging. I found myself among the one-third of young Americans who moved back in with their parents—not merely a stereotype, but a reality for many of us. While it wasn’t my original plan, living at home alleviated the pressure of rent during a time when job opportunities were scarce. This arrangement allowed me to save money and tackle my debts more effectively, despite it not being the most favorable situation.
The report highlights that in 2005, the majority of young adults in 35 states lived independently. By 2015, this number had dwindled to just six states. Pursuing higher education, along with the debt that often accompanies it, contributes significantly to the postponement of marriage. Those burdened with student loans often struggle to afford essential life expenses, such as buying a car or a home, which are important for building a shared life. The time and effort required to succeed in college—especially when balancing a job—often leads to postponing family planning, as many prefer to wait until their situation stabilizes.
It’s not surprising that marriage is occurring later in life. While 80% of adults in 1970 were married by 30, that figure has shifted dramatically, with many now waiting until 45 to tie the knot. Some women are even choosing to remain childless for various reasons, while others are delaying motherhood to focus on their education. In fact, “41% of young families had student debt in 2013, compared to just 17% in 1989.” The report also reveals that only 14% of millennial women aged 25 to 34 are homemakers, a significant decrease from 43% in 1975. This generation is likely one of the last where stay-at-home moms were the norm, as many women today feel the need to work, whether due to single parenting or financial necessity.
Ultimately, millennials are shaped by the generations that came before them. As older generations passed down their versions of the American Dream and ideals about adulthood, millennials have adapted these narratives to fit contemporary realities. We may eventually align with our parents’ generation, but we’re doing it on our own terms. We’re simply laying the groundwork to take on the world when the time is right.
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In summary, the trend of millennials delaying marriage and parenthood is a reflection of current economic pressures and changing societal norms. As young adults prioritize education and career, they are reshaping the narrative of adulthood and family life.