“Mom, I’m sooooo bored.”
If you ask most parents, they’ll tell you that hearing their children complain about boredom ranks high on their list of least favorite phrases. We’ve all encountered those moments, whether we’re juggling work from home or managing the daily chaos of parenting. A child trailing behind you, demanding constant entertainment, quickly becomes tiresome.
But here’s the twist: If your kid is feeling bored, it’s not their fault. It’s yours.
That’s right. It’s your responsibility that your child is wandering around the house lamenting their lack of entertainment options. If kids struggle to cope with boredom, it’s because we haven’t equipped them with the skills to handle those moments. Just as we’ve taught them to brush their teeth, ride a bike, and tie their shoes, we need to guide them in nurturing their creativity during unengaging times. When a child declares, “I’m bored,” what they’re really conveying is, “Mom, I’ve exhausted my options and now I need you to fix it because I don’t know how to have fun on my own.” Sorry, kiddo, but I’m not your playmate. Go build a fort or something, because this mom isn’t here to entertain you.
While I may have a laid-back approach towards boredom, it’s been a journey to reach this point. I consciously decided early in my parenting journey that I wouldn’t be the kind of parent who provides round-the-clock entertainment. Reflecting on my own childhood, aside from a few moments when my mom played games with us or took us out for ice cream, she was not my constant playmate. And I was perfectly fine with that.
My siblings and I were compelled to find our own activities. We put on musical performances in the living room, raced our bikes around the neighborhood, and engaged in endless games of Monopoly and UNO, complete with sibling disputes over cheating. We sought out friends when we needed a break from each other and occasionally picked up books for some quiet time. Boredom sparked creativity in my childhood, but unfortunately, that’s not the case for many kids today.
At some point, we’ve collectively decided that every single moment must be entertaining for our children. We have cars equipped with DVD players, iPads in restaurants, and streaming services like Netflix and Hulu acting as electronic babysitters. Our children’s schedules are packed with sports, activities, and social events, leaving very little room for downtime to just sit and be bored.
When a child finally encounters a moment where they feel they have nothing to do, boredom can seem foreign and unsettling. However, a child who learns to transform boredom into creativity is less likely to express, “I’m bored.”
We must provide our children with the tools to self-motivate and feel empowered during unstructured time. We need to encourage them to seek more than just lounging on the couch, waiting for someone to propose the next activity. It’s essential to help them gain control over their situation and build confidence in their creative abilities.
So, how do we encourage creativity amidst our own struggles to detach from our devices?
We begin by allowing our kids to navigate their boredom when it arises. Resist the temptation to suggest activities when they announce their boredom. Incorporate scheduled downtime into your daily routine. Even a simple half-hour of quiet time can boost creativity and lead to more reading. And yes, that includes you, Mom—put your phone down and ignore that laundry pile.
Say no to the iPad at the restaurant and the DVD on the way to the grocery store. Really, does a child need to watch cartoons on that seven-minute drive for milk and eggs? While I appreciate screen time, it can sometimes become excessive.
Consider turning off the TV, changing the household Wi-Fi password, and observing what unfolds. Sure, there may be some initial complaints and drama, but if you stand your ground, the wonders of boredom will start to emerge. Your kids will eventually discover ways to entertain themselves. The more they do this independently, the less you’ll hear the dreaded, “I’m bored.”
Although fostering creativity in my children means my home is overflowing with art supplies and forgotten science projects, the sounds of their imaginative endeavors and teamwork remind me that life is never dull.
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Summary:
Allowing children to experience boredom is crucial for their development. It encourages creativity and independence, equipping them with the skills to self-entertain. Instead of providing constant entertainment, parents should create opportunities for kids to engage with their environment and discover their own interests. By stepping back and allowing kids to navigate their boredom, they will learn to thrive in unstructured moments.