A few weeks ago, two friends and I took our five daughters swimsuit shopping. With a big sale at Shopko, the girls, aged 10 to 17, needed new swimsuits after outgrowing their old ones from the previous season.
Each of our daughters has developed a healthy body image and actively resists the stereotypical “girly” styles that often dominate the market. As their parent and role model, I’ve emphasized that they are more than just their appearances. I’ve encouraged them to appreciate their bodies as tools for strength and health, rather than objects to be judged by societal standards. We discuss the impact of our clothing choices and the messages they convey, aiming for them to express themselves freely and be comfortable in their skin.
Finding the Right Swimsuit
In the swimsuit section, we found a plethora of options predominantly in pink and sparkly designs, which frustrated the girls. They sought two-piece suits that provided enough coverage to reduce sun exposure, wanting to avoid the painful sunburns they had experienced during previous summers. They desired suits that allowed them to run, jump, and play without worrying about wardrobe malfunctions. Additionally, they preferred colors that went beyond the typical pinks and pastels.
One of the girls finally exclaimed, “Why can’t we just wear board shorts and sun shirts like the boys?” This sparked a realization. Why not indeed?
Excitedly, the girls dashed to the boys’ section. They found matching rash guards and swim shorts decorated with sharks. The older girls discovered vibrant turquoise and lime green patterns that matched their tastes perfectly. They were thrilled.
Defying Norms
As mothers, we admired their creativity and willingness to defy the marketing norms that had been imposed upon them. However, they quickly recognized a potential issue: without a swim top under their sun shirts, they might encounter some unexpected exposure when diving into the water. They resolved this by considering sports bras, which seemed to be a practical solution. We knew that other stores offered sun shirts and swim shorts in styles that weren’t just pink and sparkly, but the girls were content with their choices from the boys’ section, so why change it?
This experience powerfully illustrated the clash between individual preference and societal expectations in fashion. Many of us have stood in front of a mirror, questioning fashion trends that prioritize style over practicality. While some women embrace ultra-low-rise jeans, many find them impractical.
The Importance of Personal Choice
I believe that women should have the freedom to wear what they choose, but it’s essential to be conscious of the influences behind those choices. Whether in a bikini, a one-piece, or boys’ swim gear, the decision should ultimately belong to the individual. The girls may not have realized the statement they made by shopping in the boys’ section, but I certainly did. They confidently chose what felt right for them, regardless of societal expectations or peer pressure. As a mother and a woman, I felt a deep sense of pride.
Conclusion
In conclusion, this experience highlighted the importance of personal choice and body positivity in a world often dictated by marketing and societal norms.
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