As I approach a new chapter in life, I find myself reflecting on the comforting influences of my teenage years, particularly the movies and television shows that shaped my childhood in the ’80s and early ’90s. From the whimsical charm of Sesame Street and the clever sketches of The Electric Company to iconic series like Family Ties and 90210, these formative experiences laid the groundwork for my understanding of life. The films that repeatedly captivated me featured stars like Molly Ringwald, Ethan Hawke, and Andrew McCarthy, all while showcasing a delightful amount of hairspray. Recently, I chuckled at how many of the values I hope to instill in my children were gleaned not from my parents or classrooms, but from unforgettable movie scenes that still echo in my mind:
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Each person is a unique blend of identities. (The Breakfast Club)
As my eldest son navigates sixth grade, he’s starting to categorize himself and his friends, just as I did at that age. I remind him that everyone carries their own struggles behind the masks they wear at school—no one fits neatly into a single label. Even as an adult, this lesson remains crucial. As a character in another favorite film, Can’t Buy Me Love, poignantly states, “Nerds, jocks. My side, your side… It’s hard enough just trying to be yourself.” -
Strive to be a man, not just one of the guys. (Say Anything)
In high school, I aimed for mediocrity, wanting to blend into the crowd. But I want my kids to know that true greatness lies in rising above average. It’s important to do what’s right, even if it requires vulnerability. I hope they experience their own “standing-in-the-rain-with-a-boombox” moments. -
Parents were once clueless teens too. (Back to the Future)
Witnessing Marty McFly’s awkward interactions with his parents made me realize the generational gap. I want my kids to understand that I was once in their shoes, and while I may not know everything, I do have more life experience—at least for now. -
It’s okay to not feel the same way about someone who likes you. (Pretty in Pink)
I adored Andrew McCarthy’s character, Blane, but felt a soft spot for Jon Cryer’s Duckie. The reality is, my children will encounter unreciprocated feelings. It’s essential to treat others with kindness, even if the feelings aren’t mutual; love can’t be forced. -
Words have the power to change the world. (Dead Poets Society)
While we may lament the rise of social media, the truth is that words remain potent. I want my children to appreciate the impact of their words—especially online. Robin Williams’ character emphasized the importance of ideas; I want my kids to carry that message into the digital age. -
Life moves quickly, don’t forget to enjoy it. (Ferris Bueller’s Day Off)
Recently, my son pointed out that I often focus on his mistakes rather than celebrating his successes. He has a valid point. I want him to embrace life’s adventures, even if it means skipping school occasionally. We all need to break free from routine now and then. -
Simple gestures matter. (Singles)
Bridget Fonda’s character reminded me of the importance of kindness when she lamented her lowered standards for love. I encourage my kids to say “bless you” when someone sneezes—it’s a small yet meaningful way to practice politeness in a world that often feels disconnected. -
We are all Goonies. (The Goonies)
This film captured my childhood spirit. The moment when Data’s father tells him, “You are my best invention,” resonates deeply with me. I want my children to know that they are cherished, no matter how they express their individuality. -
Connection transcends time and space. (E.T.: The Extraterrestrial)
Seeing E.T. leave Elliott hit me hard, but his promise, “I’ll… be… right… here,” teaches a profound lesson about love and memory that even adults find hard to grasp. -
Never challenge a Sicilian when the stakes are high. (The Princess Bride)
This timeless wisdom speaks for itself, doesn’t it?
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In summary, the lessons gleaned from these beloved ’80s films are not just nostalgic; they hold valuable insights that can guide our children through the complexities of life. By sharing these cinematic gems, I hope to inspire my kids to grow into thoughtful, compassionate, and authentic individuals.