A mother’s closest confidant is often another mother. They truly understand the ups and downs of parenthood because they’ve navigated the same waters. They can provide support when you’re feeling overwhelmed, share a laugh, or simply give you a comforting hug. Plus, they get why you might interrupt them—it’s because you’re thrilled to converse with another adult, leading to spontaneous bursts of excitement.
While my mom friends are invaluable, I also cherish my friends without kids. They remind me that I am more than “just a mom” and help me appreciate the joys of toddlerhood, even amidst the chaos. They offer perspectives that I sometimes overlook and encourage my growth as an individual.
However, if you haven’t experienced parenthood yourself, it’s challenging to fully grasp the nuances of raising children. Non-parent friends often try to understand, but until they are in the trenches, they miss the real essence of these experiences. For instance:
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I say: “I am so exhausted today.”
They hear: “I could really go for a nice nap.”
What I mean: “I’m dreaming of a week-long getaway in a hotel with endless TV and a mountain of cookies.” -
I say: “Little Jamie actually slept through the night last night.”
They hear: “Jamie got a full 9 hours of sleep.”
What I mean: “Jamie dozed for three hours, woke up to nurse for half an hour, then snoozed for another four. It’s a miracle!” -
I say: “Can I offer you a snack?”
They hear: “Should I make us a quick meal?”
What I mean: “Would you like a graham cracker or maybe some fruit snacks?” -
I say: “I can’t wait for the kids to start school.”
They hear: “I’m excited for my kids to learn and grow.”
What I mean: “I’m counting down the days until I have a few hours of peace five days a week.” -
I say: “My kids are becoming picky eaters.”
They hear: “My kids sometimes skip their veggies.”
What I mean: “They’ve somehow thrived on just bread and milk for the past three days.” -
I say: “Sorry for the mess at home.”
They hear: “I’ve been too busy being a great mom to clean.”
What I mean: “Can you get me a housekeeper for my birthday?” -
I say: “As your friend, I should mention I haven’t showered today.”
They hear: “I’ll shower once the kids are asleep.”
What I mean: “I haven’t had the chance to do more than rinse the baby poop off my hands since last Friday.”
It’s not their fault; they just haven’t walked in my shoes. Maybe I should let them babysit for a night or two—or perhaps a couple of weeks. I think I even saw a Groupon for a short-term hotel!
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In summary, while having mom friends is crucial for sharing experiences unique to parenthood, non-mom friends play an equally important role by reminding you of your individuality. Bridging the communication gap between these two worlds can be tricky, but it’s essential for maintaining those valuable friendships.