I wouldn’t describe myself as particularly competitive. In school, I wasn’t obsessed with getting perfect grades, and I had little interest in sports scores. I’ve never felt the need to keep up with others around me, especially when it comes to comparing myself with fellow women. However, since stepping into the role of a parent, I’ve found unexpected areas where competition seems to thrive.
Resemblance and Genetic Showdowns
Take, for instance, the resemblance of my kids. When they were infants, it was clear that Liam and Mia took after their dad. At three, Liam is practically a mini-me of his father; our baby photos could easily be swapped. While I think my kids are absolutely adorable, I can’t shake off this feeling of having lost some sort of genetic showdown. It’s not just a passing thought—every time someone comments on their likeness (which happens constantly), I feel a twinge of irritation. Why does it matter so much?
Keeping Up with Friends
Then there’s the competition outside of our family unit. We were one of the first among our friends to marry young and start having children. With each addition to our family, I relished in being the trendsetter. But now, it feels like our friends are catching up, and some are even outpacing us. They have larger families—some with four kids and even twins, while others boast five children altogether. It’s overwhelming. I know that we have a full house already, and adding a fourth would likely send me spiraling into chaos, yet I can’t help but feel envious of those with bigger families. It’s as if I’m the only one in this race, and it’s beginning to wear on me.
Seeking Common Ground
My partner, Noah, thinks I’m being ridiculous and doesn’t share these feelings at all. So, I turn to you, fellow parents: Is this a common experience? Does anyone else feel this strange sense of competition, or is it just me? Maybe I should just choose a favorite sports team like everyone else—it’s definitely less complicated than expanding our family!
Further Reading
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Conclusion
In summary, while I never considered myself competitive, motherhood has opened up a world of unexpected rivalries. From my children’s resemblance to their father to the size of our families compared to friends, it’s easy to fall into the trap of comparison. Ultimately, though, it’s about finding joy in our unique journeys, regardless of what others are doing.