Back when I was working a nine-to-five job, I occasionally tuned into the radio show hosted by Dr. Laura. I won’t lie; she’s a bit out there, but it was a humorous way to pass the time while driving. Who cares if my eyes rolled more than a few times?
I distinctly remember her discussing “Love Languages,” a concept about how couples express and receive love. At first, I thought it was a bit cliché, but the idea has stuck with me. Lately, I’ve been reflecting on it more than I expected.
You might not realize it from some of my posts, but Kevin and I are actually a great match (at least in the most significant ways). If soul mates exist, then he is undoubtedly mine. He’s the yin to my yang and the peanut butter to my jelly—every cheesy metaphor applies. The catch? We communicate in completely different love languages.
I’m not referring to the “tune out your partner while you do your own thing” dialect, though he does have a knack for that too. I mean the ways he shows his enduring affection for me, and how I reciprocate.
Kevin’s love language is material gifts. He showers people he cares about with presents, while I have a deep-seated aversion to money being spent on me. This difference has led to numerous trips to return items he’s bought. Before we merged finances, I could brush off unwanted gifts as a mild annoyance, but now that we’re married, it just seems absurd. If I want something, I’ll buy it myself. Flowers wilt, cards end up in the trash, and there’s no hidden stash of surprise gifts. I just don’t resonate with his ‘green’ love language.
On the flip side, my love language is all about food. Cooking makes me happy—planning, preparing, and enjoying meals. I’ve always believed that the way to someone’s heart is through their stomach, and I pour my energy into creating homemade dishes. I often challenge myself to replicate our favorite restaurant meals. I fuss over every detail for him. Yet, he’d be just as satisfied with a simple pasta dish or takeout from a budget-friendly Chinese place.
So why am I bent on crafting elaborate meals? And why does he continue to shower me with gifts? Will we ever communicate in the same love language? Perhaps the answer lies in dining out more often, with him covering the bill.
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In summary, navigating the complexities of love languages in a relationship can lead to humorous misunderstandings and a journey toward finding common ground. Embracing these differences can foster deeper connections and promote growth.