You’ve spotted her at the playground, during yoga class for moms and babies, or perhaps at a local parenting group. Just as you were rolling your eyes at a sanctimommy rant about the dangers of formula or the evils of disposable diapers, your eyes locked with hers. A silent understanding passed between you: it’s time to connect.
Welcome to the world of Mom Friends!
In the past, you had friends who knew every detail of your life—your family dynamics, your favorite music, even your questionable college escapades. Your friendships were built on shared interests and deep conversations. But now, your social circle is made up of the women you encounter in the parenting trenches, and the focus of your chats tends to revolve around children. Topics like potty-training, diaper disasters, and the latest sales on chicken breasts dominate your discussions. It’s time to break the cycle of mundane conversations!
If you want to find your MBFF (mom best friend forever), consider these conversation starters to elevate your chats beyond diaper duty:
- Intimacy: Let’s be real—she’s probably had some adult fun at least once. A humorous comment about your lack of “adult time” can spark a genuine conversation. After all, you both might just need a laugh about it!
- Birth Stories: Since you’ve both given birth, this can be a great way to gauge her birthing philosophy. Whether she’s a homebirth advocate or a hospital girl, sharing stories can lead to laughter and bonding over common experiences, like, did you both poop during labor? It’s a topic that never gets old.
- Music: Begin with a light-hearted complaint about how you can’t stand kiddie music anymore, then transition to reminiscing about your favorite bands. Does she miss the days of blasting Nirvana while driving? You might discover a shared love for 90s nostalgia.
- Parenting Styles: Discussing playground politics can lead to a deeper understanding of each other’s parenting philosophies. Are you both more free-range or helicopter parents? This can be a fun way to learn without diving too deep too quickly.
- College Days: Did she go to school? Share some of your most embarrassing moments (like that time you spilled spaghetti on your ex’s shoes). It’s refreshing to reminisce about life before kids.
- Sibling Stories: Everyone has sibling drama, and sharing yours can create a connection. Learning about her family dynamics can give you insight into her background and spark some interesting conversations.
- Shopping: Start by discussing where to find the best yoga pants. This can evolve into a delightful chat about your favorite stores and what you like to wear when you’re not knee-deep in baby messes.
- Pre-Kid Lives: Ask her about her life before kids. You might be surprised to find out she was a chef or an artist! This can be a fun way to discover hidden talents and passions.
- Crafting: If she crafts to cope with the chaos of motherhood, it can be a great topic to discuss. Whether she quilts, paints, or just attempts Pinterest ideas, you’ll find common ground in creative outlets.
- Beverages: Chat about favorite drinks, when to indulge, or even past wild nights out. This will help you identify if she’s your kind of party gal or a more reserved type, and either way, it’ll lead to engaging conversations.
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Summary
If you’re looking to deepen your friendships with fellow moms, use these conversation starters to move beyond the usual topics. From discussing intimate experiences to reminiscing about pre-kid lives, these ideas will help you connect on a more meaningful level. So, go ahead, and let your friendships flourish!